mans pov, affair when it's over.

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mans pov, affair when it's over.
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Sun, 02-08-2009 - 2:34pm
i was just reading on another message board where one poster made a comment when the affair is over the man can just forget his mistress like she never exhisted. no missing her, he never cared for her, maybe never loved at all. my question is do you men find break ups of affairs as hard and trumatic as us women do. or do you just forget about your mistress like she never mattered. it's a painful thought thinking that my AP could never think of me again at all.thanks for any and all input.

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Registered: 06-08-2007
Mon, 02-09-2009 - 3:07pm

the 2 message boards i have read this on that got me thinking is the EAS board, the ending of an affair, and Ask Mr Answer Man. both boards in so many words said the same thing. Mas is the only affair support board.

like i said i've been in my affair for 2 years, or will be in April. at the very beginning he tried to walk away, then again after 6 months. i wouldn't let him after 6 months, there was something. one time i tried to end it, and i couldn't.

i agree with you in the fact that i don't think it's selfish to enter an affair. my affair in 2 years, yes i've had some times where i have hurt, but all in all he's helped me and i hope i have helped him. he's worth fighting for.

now i've learned how to deal with my emotions and not be insecure. i enjoy my affair for the tim e we do spend talking or spending time together. i never push for more then he can give. i understand. he has obligations as i do. it works.

i guess this is the difference between men and women, that men don't wear their hearts on their sleeve, and can control and hide emotions much better then females can. this probably makes it easier to end lets say an affair much easier then a female can.

thank you for your input today. it helps to understand how men deal with affair situations.

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Registered: 07-09-2008
Mon, 02-09-2009 - 7:38pm

I don't think you can generalize everyone in one group.

 

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