A marriage proposal...

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A marriage proposal...
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Fri, 08-27-2010 - 5:02pm

...is not what this post is about!

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Fri, 08-27-2010 - 8:44pm
Hugs Jane! Does you AP have ADD? :) Form what you wrote it seems like out of sight is out of mind for him. You deserve better Jane. Someone that will meet you half way and AP doesn't sound like he is willing to do that. It's just not convenient for him and you made it very easy for him. It'll be the same with any others I'm sure. How's the guy you were scoping out at your new job?
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Fri, 08-27-2010 - 11:37pm

Hey Jane- I always go to call you 'Janey' :)


Yeah

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Sat, 08-28-2010 - 12:09am
JaneJ I think you are right, he does not care about you. As sad as that is, I agree with you. I would be floored if my AP sent me an explicit pic. of another woman (his future AP, no less) to my cell.
I think it was thoughtless of him. I hope you can move on because it seems to me that you are looking for more than the physical part of affairs, you want more than that and this guy is not the one!
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Sat, 08-28-2010 - 8:41am

OK, ya got me! I really did hurry to open this thread because of the title, all the while thinking "Whaaaat?"

If it makes you feel better Jane - picture this poor next AP, going so far as to send explicit pics, etc. to get a little attention, and being ignored all day. Picture her having squirrels galore when he does this - and her NOT having MAS to turn to! You know he's not going to give her any more than he's given you. Heck chances are he'll give a lot less, because I got the impression that he really likes you, just not enough to actually change his life to make room for some time with you. Picture her madly planning for get togethers that don't always happen - too bad, so sad. LOL! If nothing else, that'll make you less jealous. I mean, jealous of what?? The fact that he wants to have sex with her?... Well, once in awhile, if she plans the whole thing and all he has to do is show up, if there's absolutely nothing else he has planned for that time, and if nothing better turns up anyway...

You're much better off as the "friend and confidante". I think you'll actually get more of his time that way - time that won't make him feel conflicted or guilty.

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Sat, 08-28-2010 - 11:42pm

I like Janey!

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Sat, 08-28-2010 - 11:46pm
Thanks, layshka.
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Sat, 08-28-2010 - 11:47pm

Thanks Janey!


I have a question on that actually- I'll post a separate thread!

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You are what you consistently do
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Sat, 08-28-2010 - 11:56pm

I think you are wise, lexi!

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Sun, 08-29-2010 - 12:39am

LOL @ ADD!

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Sun, 08-29-2010 - 12:54am

Janey- you rock,


Ok here is what I think. Drop the sex with him if that is easier for you (I would also if I was organising it so much). But I would definately maintain the sexy jokes and chats. If he cant handle that- he'll tell you!


Also I think he showed you that pic because you are such good mates and have a history of sharing that sort of info. I think its a sign of trust and friendship.


Not a great analogy- but sort of like your favourite dog bringing you a dead possum (or beaver in this case- hahahahahahahaha). Sorry just cracked myself up there!


But you see what i mean? Also Id rather be his friend than lover anyday- friendship lasts!


Iggyx

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You are what you consistently do

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