Married and Seeing a Married Man
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Married and Seeing a Married Man
| Sat, 01-17-2004 - 6:35pm |
I am new at this, I have been having an affair with a married man for about 2 months. We are both married and seam to be happy with it that way. We are "Best Friends" that cared about each other emotionaly, and sexually. This all started when we all went out dancing and my lover and I became a little touchy feely. One thing led to another and now we can't stay away from each other. We call each other and see each other as much as possible. Our familys are very close and my husband talks to him like he buddy. How do I keep my cool. I want the best of both worlds. Am I crazy or what?

Hi becca and welcome aboard,
If you're crazy... then all... or at least half of us around here are too.
Sweet
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Our families are close and my H and MM used to talk, but not since H found us out. Our EMA had been going on for 7 months when H found out, and with all of us being friends, it has been total HELL!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Please, please, please be careful!
I am currently trying to pick up the pieces of my M, and still keep in touch with MM very cautiously. I am lucky that H will not spill the beans to MM's W, but he sure does a good job at making certain I feel extremely guilty when I see her and will never talk to MM again, which I am sure will eventually become obvious to W.
Best of luck to you, but I am cautioning you to be extremely careful, and even suggesting that, if possible, end it before my situation happens to you. I'd hate for anyone else to go through this hell, but please keep in touch with me if you need a friend who has been there. This board has really helped me keep it together.
I haven't been around in awhile.. mostly because my relationship with a MM is now my own life. My MM left his wife and we are now together, but I had a whole different situation than most people here. So I'm not sure how to explain it all to someone new.
The closeness in families is a big concern, mostly because if it is uncovered what is happening between you two, it will be very difficult on two families that will suddenly be at war. BTDT! Right now, I'm wondering if this is not just a moment of passion and lust, something that is making you both feel wanted and needed. Something that you may be missing at home right now for some reason unknown to us, which can probably remain unknown. I don't know if you both have children, but if you do, then I am sure that they are friends with each other and play together when both families are together. Let me just say this.. children are not dumb!!! I think that my MM's kids figured out me and thier daddy long before anyone else did. They loved to come and see me.
One weekend when his wife went out of town, he called me when he was on his way back from the airport and said, she's in the air, are you coming over? It was a friday morning and he didn't have to work, so I got up and went over there, crawled in bed with him and we went back to sleep. At 7:00 or so he got up and went and woke up the kids, but then came back to the bedroom with me. His little girl, came to the door while we were both in there and the first thing she asked is.. "Is mommy gone?" He said "Yes" She said, "Can (me) come over??" It took everything in me not to jump up out of that bed and open the door and hug her.
What I am trying to say, is limit things.. take it slow.. and see if this is something that is truly worth turning everything in two family lives upside down for. I hate so much to say that, but it is hard and there will be alot of people effected by the decisions that you both make in this EMA.
I happened to be single, which made things alot easier in my situation. Although my situation is of course alot different in many ways. I was still seeing a married man, which in turn caused his separation and soon divorce from his wife.
Just think about it all... that's the best advice anyone can give you.. BOTH. Make sure that this isn't just moments of passion and lust that you will later regret.
~ Pooh
Good Luck to you, and keep me posted. Remember that you are not alone!
You are not crazy. My OM is a friend of both my husband and me and it is very tough when we are in situations that involve the 3 of us socializing to keep my hands to myself. I feel like when anyone talks about my OM that they can see on my face the emotions I have.
Good luck!
MrsDARE87