<<..sex with my H is great and the best I ever had>
That is so interesting to me. I don't recall seeing another post on the boards where sex with the spouse is better than sex with the AP.
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Is there a **good** reason for any of us to have an A? I have yet to find someone that has a good reason that isn't, at some level, a rationalization. You might not have a reason, but you certainly must have a need, want or desire. It may be at some unconscious level, but something brought you the A. It could just be the excitement and risk. Whatever it is, it's okay for it to be unique to your circumstances.
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We are still M, I have been living separately in my own place for 2+ years and we have discussed D; which is inevitable.
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I had one very bad and upsetting DDay not long after the affair started. Of course, the A didn't end. I did have another DDay of sorts, when my W had obviously been scrutinizing the cell phone bills a year or two later.
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I don't believe so. She has never mentioned any suspicions that he has had. Many years ago, I recall asking her if she was ever worried about being discovered. She said "No, he trusts me". Which is kind of a scary answer if you think about it.
hi rayne It is normal to feel exclusive. Whatever you felt, for sure he felt it too, only that he kept it to himself. Have you tried restraining yourself not to have sex with H? have you tried thinking your AP on top of another woman? Have you tried thinking your H frolicking with another girl? Love always see saw like this 70%H-30%Ap, 60%H-40%AP, 50%H-50%AP, etc i don't know where you are now but if Ap is more than 50% than H, then sex with H is hard bec you will not want to hurt AP. I'm a man, for me it hurts to know my girl having sex with another man, be it even husband. It hurts to know that my girl is having sex with husband because HE wants it, she has to and more painful if SHE wants it. I am still in EA, i'm hanging to it not only because i want it and happy with it but because i know i can make her happy, she will be better with me, i'm a better person( what i think) It is not only for me but also for her, should we say ours and us
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Rayne...
<<..sex with my H is great and the best I ever had>
That is so interesting to me. I don't recall seeing another post on the boards where sex with the spouse is better than sex with the AP.
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Is there a **good** reason for any of us to have an A? I have yet to find someone that has a good reason that isn't, at some level, a rationalization. You might not have a reason, but you certainly must have a need, want or desire. It may be at some unconscious level, but something brought you the A. It could just be the excitement and risk. Whatever it is, it's okay for it to be unique to your circumstances.
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We are still M, I have been living separately in my own place for 2+ years and we have discussed D; which is inevitable.
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I had one very bad and upsetting DDay not long after the affair started. Of course, the A didn't end. I did have another DDay of sorts, when my W had obviously been scrutinizing the cell phone bills a year or two later.
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I don't believe so. She has never mentioned any suspicions that he has had. Many years ago, I recall asking her if she was ever worried about being discovered. She said "No, he trusts me". Which is kind of a scary answer if you think about it.
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It is normal to feel exclusive. Whatever you felt, for sure he felt it too, only that he kept it to himself.
Have you tried restraining yourself not to have sex with H? have you tried thinking your AP on top of another woman? Have you tried thinking your H frolicking with another girl?
Love always see saw like this 70%H-30%Ap, 60%H-40%AP, 50%H-50%AP, etc
i don't know where you are now but if Ap is more than 50% than H, then sex with H is hard bec you will not want to hurt AP.
I'm a man, for me it hurts to know my girl having sex with another man, be it even husband.
It hurts to know that my girl is having sex with husband because HE wants it, she has to and more painful if SHE wants it.
I am still in EA, i'm hanging to it not only because i want it and happy with it but because i know i can make her happy, she will be better with me, i'm a better person( what i think)
It is not only for me but also for her, should we say ours and us
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