Married but in love with a woman.

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Registered: 02-25-2009
Married but in love with a woman.
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Wed, 02-25-2009 - 7:10pm

I am in quite situation, and wanted some feedback.


I have been married for 9 years, and my husband I stopped having sex about 2 years ago.

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Registered: 08-19-2008
Thu, 02-26-2009 - 2:13pm

Do what you feel is right for you and accept all consequences of it. Life is short, don't settle for less than what you deserved. I think your H is having someone on the side for sex, but is trying to restrict you from having some. Why would you want to live a life like that?

You're a grown up woman who knows what make you happy. Don't give your power to other people.

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Thu, 02-26-2009 - 6:07pm

I can certainly understand your frustration. My xH was very much like your husband. Our sex life was never very fulfilling, and there were years where we had sex like once or twice. He, too, had huge sexual issues and absolutely no willingness to discuss them in any way. After several years of this, I, too, had an affair.

I do think that you have to do what will make YOU happy, regardless of your husband. I'm not sure going and living with her AND her husband is what is going to do it for you, though. Because you are in love with her. How would it feel to you to have her sleep with him? It's one thing to know they do it, but another to be living in the same home and experiencing it. I'm pretty open-minded, but the situation seems just a little strange. Not that she's a woman, but just the whole three's a company thing. I'd be very sure it's what you want before making that kind of a move.