married man

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Registered: 09-12-2003
married man
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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 12:25pm
I have been best friends with a married man and his wife for ten years, we met through our children. I am a widow and have been living with a man for 15 years. The other man and I just confessed we had feelings for each other receintly, and have made love twice, he shows me love, caring and I feel special about myself, this has always been the case though. I love the man I am with and know he loves his wife, and we don't want to hurt them, but the feelings we have are very strong, and no matter what we sill will be friends, is this so wrong?
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Registered: 09-07-2003
In reply to: idegeneral
Fri, 09-12-2003 - 12:33pm
FIRST OF ALL WHATS RIGHT OR WRONG IS ONLY FOR YOU TO DECIDE. WE (OR AT LEAST MOST OF US) ARE NOT HERE TO JUDGE BUT JUST TO LISTEN AND RELATE.

MY EMA IS WITH A LONG TIME FRIEND AND CO-WORKER WHO IS A MM. MY H HAS MET HIM AND WE HAVE WENT TO DINNER TOGETHER SEVERAL TIMES. AT LEAST UP UNTIL THE EMA STARTED.

YOU CANNOT HELP HOW YOU FEEL...YOU JUST MUST REALIZE AS WITH EVERYTHING THERE ARE RISKS TO A RELATIONSHIP LIKE THIS.

I HAVE FOUND THAT I FEEL MUCH BETTER ABOUT MY EMA AND IT'S STRESS SINCE MY FIRST POST TO THE BOARD.

I WISH YOU LUCK IN YOUR NEW RELATIONSHIP. BUT YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE WHO CAN DECIDE THE RIGHT/WRONG ISSUE

LOL