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| Wed, 06-09-2010 - 7:44pm |
ok, here's my story...
Edited 6/13/2010 1:04 am ET by julied4me
Edited 6/13/2010 1:04 am ET by julied4me
| Wed, 06-09-2010 - 7:44pm |
I met a great gal on these boards and we have been emailing back and forth outside this forum for the past two years.
I totally understand where you're coming from. I know for a fact I could not walk out on my H and my marriage - just couldn't do it. I knew that right upfront though, and always said it - can't do it. I think, when the goal of leaving was far away in some distant time, you were able to think about doing it, but now that it's right HERE, you are realizing all the ramifications of it.
But what it comes down to is - if your marriage is truly bad, you are better off alone than in your marriage. Even though you really DON'T know if he will leave his marriage or not, it shouldn't matter. If you really want to leave, you should leave anyway.
If your marriage isn't that bad, then you should change your stance and tell him you don't want to leave. Think about "fixing" your marriage, or concentrating on it a little more.
With me, I know it's not my marriage that would need "fixing", it's ME.
Anyway, it just seems like you are getting cold feet when the time is here for you to "jump", so to speak. Maybe that means you should slow down and think a little more about what you really want.
You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull
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Its pretty normal to be scared.Basically you are in transition from fantasy to reality and real life comes with a lot of fall out,so to speak.Dont hurry.Take baby steps with enough time to think about things as they really are.
"But what it comes down to is - if your marriage is truly bad, you are better off alone than in your marriage. Even though you really DON'T know if he will leave his marriage or not, it shouldn't matter. If you really want to leave, you should leave anyway.
If your marriage isn't that bad, then you should change your stance and tell him you don't want to leave. Think about "fixing" your marriage, or concentrating on it a little more. "
ITA with this.
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