May "roll call", and a few questions
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| Tue, 05-04-2010 - 11:12am |
OK, it's time to re-introduce ourselves. If you're tired of telling "your story", you can post a link to a previous post that contained it, or you can do a "reader's digest condensed" version. :-)
My RDC version is:
I've been married many years, have known my H since high school, have some grown children and little grandchildren. I've been involved with my (single) OM for 11 years - during which we've gone through a lot! We are very good and deeply trusted friends, who have sex. I do love him, but I feel that my marriage is happy and I love my H also, and our life together.
Now the questions...
What is it you seek from this board? Do you think you're getting what you wanted here? I've noticed that some posters have disappeared since I've gotten here, and although I realize that that is the nature of this place, I also realize I could have driven some away. If there's something you wish were different, or better, share it. Don't be afraid - it might actually improve the board! :-) Share...

You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull

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Lexi!
I think you're doing a great job, Lexi!
Let's see: been with H for 15 years and have a young child with special needs.
anotherseyes
I have always been a lurker here.
hi lexi.. been lurking, following for about 6-8 months now.. you've surely livened up the place.. and you've been a great cl, very happy about that..
MM here.. been married over ten yrs.. a couple of kids.. found MAP online, we were both searching.. been over two years into the A now.. once through the initial whirldwind, we (she) were smart enough to ground the R properly and we're now good friends, confidants, and enjoy a happy PA.. we do see each other about once every two months or so.. but are in touch regularly.. and safely.. and no one else knows..
i enjoy the board a lot in terms of seeing others who are where i am at, where i was at, being able to agree/disagree with opinions,learn, share, vent.. it's surely a unique place..
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Lexi - you ARE doing a fantastic job as CL!
I don't talk too much about my first affair for fear someone who knows me in real life might put the pieces together and figure out who I was having an affair with (I'm not worried marital wise as my marriage is over, but I do worry for my ex-AP's marriage. Why do I worry? I don't know.. I just do. They are still together and we put her through enough turmoil - she doesn't need anymore).
I got married in 1996 - I was young. He was young. I got pregnant. We did what everyone thought was right and married. I was unsure of it from the first moment. But, I went along with it because I felt it would be best for our child. We separated in 2002, but I went back as I had no job, no car, no way to support our two children. We had good times, but I think as we grew up we grew apart. We changed and we didn't change together. Back in Sept, I met someone online. It was supposed to just be a fling between us (he lives almost 2 hours away). We thought it would be a FWB type deal - see each other when we can, have sex, etc. No emotional attachments or anything like that. We talked online for awhile. Then moved to texting and then to phone calls. We were supposed to meet in person on my birthday but his car broke down. We met for the first time on October 4, 2009. From the second our eyes met, we both knew this wasn't going to be a no strings attached, emotion-less fling.
Fast forward to now - I've separated from my husband and AP is no longer AP, but my boyfriend. We're making plans for our future and moving forward. We are still doing the LDR, but we make it work. :)
I wasn't sure if you guys would still want me on this board since AP isn't AP anymore. I feel comfortable here and I enjoy being able to help someone. I've been through 2 affairs - 1 ending, 1 turning into a real relationship. So, I DO understand all the feelings that go into having one.
Even though we've moved into a real relationship, I still feel as though I get support from this board - even if all of you don't realize it.
I think you've made this board wonderful, Lexi!
Hi Everyone,
i have posted a couple of times both here and on EAS. Although i think currently i definately belong here, my alter ego nocompromises2010 sits quietly awaiting the day we i might end up on EAS whether by choice or circumstance who knows.
46yo MW with happily married dh (22 year marriage - known for 28yrs) and ds (14) and dd(12). and wonderful AP (13 months - i aspire to your 11 years Lexie)
I have had a rollercoaster ride since day 1 virtually, with 2 ddays (his side) and various dramas and challenges along the way. AP is in a less happy marriage with 2 ds (18 and 15). For now we have decided to stay in our marriages for our children and for some financial reasons too, but have discussed a
Life is too Short ... A. since Mar 29th 2009
Greetings & Salutations!
I am married just shy of thirteen years and have been involved with a married man for nearly six of them.
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You probably have far more advice and wisdom to offer than you realize. So, please... don't lurk anymore. Share. The more the merrier! Especially since A's can (and often are..) very lonely relationships.
I don't think I have it in me to go over my situation right now... so much is up in the air.
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