May "roll call", and a few questions
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| Tue, 05-04-2010 - 11:12am |
OK, it's time to re-introduce ourselves. If you're tired of telling "your story", you can post a link to a previous post that contained it, or you can do a "reader's digest condensed" version. :-)
My RDC version is:
I've been married many years, have known my H since high school, have some grown children and little grandchildren. I've been involved with my (single) OM for 11 years - during which we've gone through a lot! We are very good and deeply trusted friends, who have sex. I do love him, but I feel that my marriage is happy and I love my H also, and our life together.
Now the questions...
What is it you seek from this board? Do you think you're getting what you wanted here? I've noticed that some posters have disappeared since I've gotten here, and although I realize that that is the nature of this place, I also realize I could have driven some away. If there's something you wish were different, or better, share it. Don't be afraid - it might actually improve the board! :-) Share...

You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull

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Welcome to MAS Spike! You are another one with an interesting "open" marriage. Does your H pursue other relationships also? It seems like your "rules" are physical relationships only allowed? I used to belong to a message board where there were "polyamorous" couples - other LOVING relationships were allowed. Have you even had a talk with your H about possibly having feelings for another person? In the couples I mentioned, although the "primary relationship" came first, they were still allowed to have feelings.
Your A is as long as mine, although you are MUCH younger than I am. It would be hard to let go of an R as long as that, especially when it's about 1/3 of your life!
Hope to see you posting more. :-)
You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull
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You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull
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I used to be here and post a lot, but as the board changed I didn't feel comfortable anymore. Especially after Cubbies and Tiger left as CL's.
You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull
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Here is my deal in a nutshell:
First off, i visit this board because i find it "real". Down to earth. A place where i can relate to others and learn from others. Even if i do not specifically ask for advice, i read others posts and it helps me realize what is going on in my own life. I did not feel this way over on EAS when i was attempting to end my A.
I am 28 yrs old, married for 18 months (together for almost 7yrs), no kids. In a PA with AP for about 20months but the EA began few months earlier. AP is married for many years (20..) and has 2 ds's. is about 15 yrs my senior.
H and I have had many problems over the years. He has all sorts of issues such as depression, drinking, etc., but it isn't anything that i cannot tolerate or try to fix. I love him. He is a hard worker. Lately
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I've been lurking for over a year, just started posting a bit the last few weeks.z
I'm 27, married
I am S, so obviously AP is M.
Short version of my story:
MW(8yrs, 12 together with H) in a LDA for 8years. As you can see with the math I met my AP while technically still a newleywed. Affair snuck up on us though, looking back I recognize we started an EA pretty quickly, but at the time I would have denied it. We were co-workers briefly. Since AP and I live far apart we only see each other once or twice a year. I still love H, not entirely sure about what AP feels about his W. We actually try not to talk too much about our spouses. Although AP and I have been "together" for 8 years we have gone through periods of NC although currently we seem to have settled into a comfortable arrangement. I love having AP in my life even though it is in this weird "more than friends" place that remains hard to navigate sometimes.
Hey everyone! I posted earlier but it looks like it got lost in cyberspace.
I have been M for 13 years, with H for 16 years. I have three teens.
I come to this board mainly to hear everyone elses experiences. I currently live vicariously through each of you! I have had deep feelings for OM for 10 years. Yes, 10 years! But have never made a move out of fear of D day (since I dont want out of my M) and fear of rejection because I don't know what I'd do if I found out he didn't feel the same way. Although it would make the squirrels away!! lol
Thank you all for being so open and honest and even thought I might not actually belong here, it's great to have a place to read and post about a topic that we can't talk with anyone about in person.
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