Meant to be? Common theme.

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Registered: 04-12-2004
Meant to be? Common theme.
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Thu, 04-15-2004 - 3:37pm
I just started posting recently and have been lurking, but can't help but notice a certain common theme with all who have been in long term As.

"Meant to be"...."soulmate"....lots of fate and destiny type of comments.

We (MM and I) have always said that....we knew right away. We were meant to be. We will be together someday. Have faith. That type of thing. Finding so many "coincidences" that it seems magical.

Our kids and H/W all have the same bdays w/ same age. How we met by mistake. A million things and mind reading/etc. Incredible physical connection (5 - 7 times in a night at our age, mid forties!).

We have always said we had some sort of strange connection that was meant to be.

It is interesting to me that so many people seem to feel the same way I do.

I wonder if it is just our way of justifying or if we have all truly found something unique.

Anyone else ever notice this or think about it?
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Registered: 09-16-2003
Thu, 04-15-2004 - 5:42pm
I have had many coindidences that were magical and experiences beyond explaination. I don't know if me and OM are meant to be but the way we fit in sure seems that way. I hope and pray for the day I will be his forever to come true soon. I am tired of waiting and waiting...
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Registered: 03-15-2004
Fri, 04-16-2004 - 7:26am
My OM and I had many many coincidences that bordered on freaky. He has a lot of antique type items in his home and is interested in a little bit of everything. I wear a lot of jewelry and that night I met him I wore a ton of opals. He commented on them and said that he also collected opals. He got up and retrieved a vial of about two dozen loose opal stones. I laughed and said that I've been purchasing loose opal stones from an australian miner and have a handful too. Then I said something about collecting rare Wizard of Oz items for my neice. He got up and went into another room and brought out a beautiful edition of the 1890 book, along with an old viewmaster with Wizard of Oz slides. A while later I said something about my interest in the chinese enamel pottery called Cloissone. He chuckled again, once again walked into another room and this time came back with a lovely small round box of cloisonne work. How weird is that? On a subsequent visit I noticed a large copper key on his wall with an indian head on it. I pointed to it and said "I have one of those but mine has a thermometer on it." He said "GET OUT OF HERE!! My grandfather gave that to me and we could always tell something was missing from the front of it but we never knew what it was." It was a thermometer. I later brought mine over for him to see it. It dates well over 100 years old.

The next day I asked him his astrological sign and he replied Taurus. I said "Let me guess.... May 12th." He said "Yes! But wait I don't remember telling you that." I said "you didn't.... that's my father's birthday."

I am blessed with these stupid lumps called Lipomas. Fatty tumors really, nothing real serious but some can be aggressive and can grow large. I've had many of them removed. On his forearm he had a small lump and I asked him if it was a lipoma. He shook his head like "DANG this girl knows everything." LOL Yes he has about 2 dozen of them all over him too. His aunt has the same form of MS that my aunt passed away from. A very rare disease called Mia Stenia Gravis. My grandmother has only known one other individual in her many years who has had MSG.

Rather than thinking that we were "meant to be" we've joked that maybe we are indeed "the same person." LOL



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Registered: 02-16-2004
Fri, 04-16-2004 - 8:16am
Dementedelf...your post gave me chills. I completely believe that there are no coincidences...there are things that are just "meant to be." You and OM may be just that. How cool is that?!
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Registered: 02-02-2004
Fri, 04-16-2004 - 8:30am
Hope no-one minds me jumping in here, but I had a thought to myself a couple of years ago which I had never forgotten (and this is no kidding) that MM and I were like a "lock and a key" - I was the lock he was the key...then he uttered those exact words to me a couple of weeks later and hearing something I'd thought told to me by him as if he'd just read my mind really freaked me out but in a nice way. I never told him that I'd had that thought but when he told it to me, it all made sense. I believe firmly too that some people are just moving towards each other through their lives and when you find one another, that's it, there's no going back.

What's meant to be will be.

Have a nice day everyone.

S. xx

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Registered: 04-12-2004
Fri, 04-16-2004 - 10:36am
Interesting we all feel this way.

But then again that's what led many of us into our As. We felt forces beyond our control :)
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Registered: 02-02-2004
Fri, 04-16-2004 - 10:49am
Yeah it is interesting, but I'll admit in respect of myself, I was extremely selfish at the time and thought "to hell with everyone, I want him he wants me and anyway, he's the married one I'm not..."

Not an attitude and outlook I'm proud of now looking back on it.

S. xx