Meeting his family on Easter.....

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Registered: 01-20-2004
Meeting his family on Easter.....
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Wed, 04-07-2004 - 12:21pm
Well, we're doing it. He is introducing me to his family this Easter Sunday. I am SO nervous. They know that I have been the "OW" and that he left his W for me (in addition to finding out that his oldest DD wasnt' his, but he was leaving anyway). The family knows a HUGE amount of negative things that his ex has told them about me. MM (stbSM) took his mom to lunch to explain to her that he had feelings for me and that he would be bringing me to church services on Sunday and he expected them to give me a fair chance. Her response...."what would someone like 'her' want to go to church for?" Yup, this is what I am up against. But, I really care about her son and he cares about me and we aren't going to let them stand in the way. His response to his mother "that is quite a double standard don't you think? Considering W just got busted lying about the paternity of her child and she is welcome at the church." Boy did that shut her up. The icing on the cake: his ex found out I was going to be there (the same one who attacked me) and now she insists on going. I know exactly why she is going. She is going because she is afraid that if she isn't there to stand in the way that they may take the opportunity to get to know me and realize that I am a nice, loving, fun person and that I am not the ogar she has made me out to be. I guess this Easter will be interesting. I am usually really stressed out on Easter anyway because my mom died Easter morning and this will be the third anniversary of her death...wow, a lot has changed in three years....I wonder what she'd say. But adding this to the mix is making me a wreck. I really want to meet them because MM (should I just say b/f now?) just finished school and his graduation is in a few weeks. He has invited me to graduation (they do not know that yet) and he only gets four invites....his mom, his sister, his bro in law, and ME. We all have to sit together at a reception and I would like to know them before I am stuck feeling extremely akward at a dinner with them (without b/f because he will be with graduating class). His mom is upset because he is not inviting ex to his graduation! WHY WOULD HE?! Would you invite someone who lied and told you a child was yours?! I don't understand why his family is taking her side. Oh, I am in for a fun ride. I love the holidays.... Anyway, just wanted to share that with you guys because my nerves are going crazy. I will update everyone on Monday and let you know how it went. Please keep your fingers crossed for me...I may need it!
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Registered: 09-16-2003
Wed, 04-07-2004 - 12:30pm
So is your MM not upset about the "episode" you had last time with him? He did not want to speak to you right? Now he wants to meet the family?!?!?! Look at the wonders love can accomplish....

Don't worry about the mom she will come around once you had her a grind child. hehehe About the wife, wear your best easter dress and outshine her. That is all you can do, Karen. So good Luck with the meeting the family episode..

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Registered: 02-16-2004
Wed, 04-07-2004 - 12:32pm
Karen, you have such a tough weekend ahead of you. I will be thinking of you and will say a prayer for you. Good luck with stbSM and his family. Just be yourself...they will come to adore you!

NRY
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Registered: 01-20-2004
Wed, 04-07-2004 - 12:41pm
Juliet-

He gave me the silent treatment for two days but he did realize that he hurt my feelings....although it was wrong of me to lash out at him for it. We talked extensively about it and he knew I was sincerely sorry for being so mean. He wants me to meet his family because he realizes our R is getting more serious. It will be REALLY easy for me to outshine her (if we are talking about looks!) I went shopping in my sister's and best friend's closet to figure out what to wear this Sunday. I also bought a new dress for the graduation. I just keep telling myself that I will make an honest effort with his family and that if they can't accept me still, than they will have one person to answer to in the end for it. Oh, and about the grand child....ARE YOU CRAZY?! Between the two of us we already have 5 kids ages 6 and under! No kids for many, many years...although he does want one more...things aren't THAT serious yet!

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Registered: 09-16-2003
Wed, 04-07-2004 - 12:50pm
Karen, I am soooo happy for you. Going to see MM and family. Getting to go to his graduation. WOW!! That would be my dream day. Enjoy!!
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Registered: 10-13-2003
Wed, 04-07-2004 - 1:33pm
Karen, fingers crossed for you.