Met With AP Over the Weekend

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Met With AP Over the Weekend
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Sun, 08-01-2010 - 11:47pm

After my failed attempts to both go spend the weekend with him out of state, as well as to end things with him, he took off work a few hours early and drove back and spent the night with me Friday night.


The challenge for me is going to be accepting that every A has limitations, and an LDA has even more challenges.

anotherseyes

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Mon, 08-02-2010 - 2:07am

Wow!

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Mon, 08-02-2010 - 10:07am

Hi another,


glad that you finally got to talk with AP face to face its so much better than texts or e mails. He sounds like he is really supporting you right now, and from what I have read in your posts it does not seem like he wants to end things with you. I agree that the less your H knows about him the better and it would be wise to keep things from H about you and AP.


JMO - In terms of your H's anger I think Your H is angry at AP for what he sees as ruining your M.Regardless of whether he is seeing someone else or not he will always feel resentful to AP. If you had gone on a date with someone else I don't think your H would be as angry, it is because it is your AP who he holds responsible for your separation. I think he will always have this anger at AP, but hopefully he will eventually learn to accept it.


At least he has moved out now which will give you the space you need to sort things out with AP. I hope that things work out for you and AP.


ali x

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Mon, 08-02-2010 - 11:58am

I'm not as upset as I thought I'd be, Jane, but I don't know how much of that has to do with the fact that he upset me so much Saturday night, which just solidified how much I needed to do this?

anotherseyes

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Mon, 08-02-2010 - 12:03pm

Thanks, ali :).


AP is indeed being wonderful about all of this.

anotherseyes

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Mon, 08-02-2010 - 12:39pm

AE - I love what you said about having the bed to yourself, and talking to AP - on the rare occasions when I get to talk to AP in bed, and fall asleep right afterward, it always makes me smile!!!


one thing you said struck me...


This really sucks because as a separated woman, I shouldn't have to hide anything


This is stating the obvious, and I know you've thought about this, but while you may be single, AP is still married.

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Mon, 08-02-2010 - 1:23pm

I think you may be right there another, rather than face up to his own contribution to the breakup of your M it's easier to blame AP for it.I know that you have mentioned before about how bad your M has been but saying and doing are 2 different things,maybe your

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Mon, 08-02-2010 - 1:53pm

Thank you, justlivin :)


"This is stating the obvious, and I know you've thought about this, but while you may be single, AP is still married.

anotherseyes

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Mon, 08-02-2010 - 6:43pm

Yes, that does make more sense, since H knows it happened anyway.

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Tue, 08-03-2010 - 1:35pm

That's what we're going to do for the time being, just lay low a bit.

anotherseyes