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| Tue, 02-24-2004 - 11:44am |
I notice that most of the people here (one or both partners) are either in their 30s or above ...classic timing for midlife crisis to begin...where you feel life is passing by...the worry that you may end up with the wrong person...the worry that you do not have the right person to grow old with....the worry about the things that you wanted to do in your life and you never did so the affair substitutes in as the replacement for the excitement that those life long dreams might have brought you...and yadda yadda....all the other classic midlife crisis symptoms.
Just a thought! Midlife crisis support board may be a better name for this place :-)
PG

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Edited 2/24/2004 11:52:44 AM ET by julietsfate
HE, however, i sometimes think is going through a mid life crisis (he's 42).
i jokingly tell him his mid-life crisis's NAME is jen!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I have rented a book on midlife crisis from the library. It’s just a start for me to start looking into this issue. I think if we look at the need to have an affair as a symptom of this crisis and then read each other's stories, we will realize that these feelings that we are developing about our marriages may not really be valid. Thus we may try harder to save the marriage and are able to analyze the attraction that we feel to an outside person in the perspective of the crisis that we are passing through and thus we may be better equipped to handle it.
JMO
PG
Edited 2/24/2004 12:09:21 PM ET by julietsfate
You might not be suffering from the midlife crisis but its precursor which is the reaching-the-big-30-anxiety. LOL.
PG
Actually in the book that I am reading, it mentions that in some cases crisis usually starts in late 20s and is kind of coupled with the reaching the 30s anxiety syndrome.
I realize saying "I am having a midlife crisis" doesn't sound as great as feeling sexy and having passionate sex with somebody outside the marriage but maybe that's all that is to it.
Again IMHO :)
PG
Yes, it doesn't sound good does it???
Philly, you should start writing book and stop wasting your time here. You give wonderful advice, why not use it more productive way, hmmm???
Things that I have thought of to counter the crisis:
1) Do charity work such as volunteering at a soup kitchen, working at a children's foundation, building in habitat for humanity...I would love that
2) Go gliding..that I have always wanted to do since childhood but never got the chance to do it
3) Record a song, I have been taping songs for many years and am looking for a musician to form a band with
etc, etc
I realize that if I do these things, they would provide better meaning for my life, bring me fulfillment and I wouldn't have to consider an affair to replace what I "think" whats missing in my marriage.
Just a thought.
PG
I met married man in my twenties also....that is why I call him my "quarter life crisis"
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