Miss AP

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Miss AP
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Wed, 08-25-2010 - 1:28am
I miss my AP.
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Registered: 04-11-2010
In reply to: janejosie
Wed, 08-25-2010 - 3:55am

Hi Jane


I completely understand what you mean! I keep busy and Im ok with our decreased contact (becase he is so busy) but gee I miss sharing things with him! He told me once that he wanted to be my confidante. Nice idea but you sort of have to talk to make that work:)


Stay strong Jane. Sometimes less contact makes the contact you do have, more meaningful and fun! Familarity breeds contempt they say.


Im really pleased your job is working so well for you too :)

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Registered: 03-29-2010
In reply to: janejosie
Wed, 08-25-2010 - 9:17am
It's so normal to feel this way - and also normal to have it hit you right about now. I think at first the busyness of the new job kept you from missing him too much, but now things are settling down there (not the busyness of it, but the newness of it all) and your mind is going back to thinking about how things were before the job. Just realize this is a new phase in your relationship. Your friendship is strong enough to withstand less contact, but it doesn't mean you won't miss what you had before.

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Registered: 08-19-2010
In reply to: janejosie
Wed, 08-25-2010 - 1:27pm
I hear ya. I wish I could be with AP all the time. He lives in another state and drives for a living so I can see him twice a week if I can make it work and although I saw him last night, I miss those moments I know we cant talk or text. Sucks.
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Registered: 04-28-2010
In reply to: janejosie
Wed, 08-25-2010 - 2:50pm
I'm sorry you're missing AP Jane. How far apart do you work from one another? Could you meet for lunch-you know I'm a big fan of that! :)
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In reply to: janejosie
Wed, 08-25-2010 - 3:39pm

Aw jane, I know how you feel...I miss AP too. I'm very happy that you have the new job to help take your mind off him, although you've now settled in somewhat and

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In reply to: janejosie
Wed, 08-25-2010 - 10:43pm

Thanks for the sympathy. empathy and support.

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In reply to: janejosie
Thu, 08-26-2010 - 8:28am

I have to laugh about your "crushes"! I always did that too, but honestly, I never wanted an A with my crushes. I had guys at the gym "rated" from 1 to 7 - they were specific guys, number 1, number 2 and so on. If I went and there were 2 or more of my 7, it was a banner day! If just number 1 was there, well, it was still a banner day because he was number 1, after all LOL. Mainly I did it just to make working out more fun. I never did more with those guys than have normal friendly banter and never tried for more. Maybe because I was already in an A and I draw the line at more than one at a time LOL. I shared the rating thing with my H and I told him I always worked out harder when any of my 7 were there, trying to show off LOL. If I complained about being sore, he would say - oh, showing off, huh?

In your case, it looks like you're seriously considering an A with your crush (admit it Jane!) Again, this is someone who should be impervious to an A and you DO like the challenge. Really think about this long and hard. A workplace A is way more complicated than most. There are co-workers who pick up vibes. Your co-workers might know and really like this crush's wife and family. You're a newcomer, just starting to make friends etc. This could really sabotage you, and possibly even cost you your new job. You could become the workplace pariah. REALLY think about it before going ahead with anything like that!

Having a crush, that's fun. Having a workplace A, that can be SO bad. Keep it as a crush. If you have to distract yourself, look elsewhere.

Your schedule sounds grueling Jane! How long will you have two jobs? No wonder you're trying to distract yourself, you're exhausted! I hope you can cut down to just one job soon sweetie!

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In reply to: janejosie
Thu, 08-26-2010 - 5:01pm

I know that is good advice, lexi!