mixed feelings

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Registered: 10-23-2009
mixed feelings
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Tue, 12-15-2009 - 10:48pm

AP and I are taking up a hotel room Friday before kids are out of school for Christmas break, his W works those same kinds of hours, and my H is on vacation for 2 weeks...so we are going to have really limited contact until after the first of the year.


I don't know that I really want to go. I do, but I don't...I don't know.


Any of you ever just not feel like spending time with your APs? This has grown long term, friends for 4 yrs APs for just over 18 months. I don't want things to end, I just have had a really hectic work week so far (and it is ONLY Tuesday), and there is more chaos to come before I am done with all my shifts for the week.

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Registered: 05-17-2003
Tue, 12-15-2009 - 11:42pm

Hi gal,

I'm not a guy, but I have to say...what do you think AP would do, faced with the same situation? I say call him, tell him that it's just not going to work..what with the holidays and all, but you will catch up with him ASAP.

You're both married, both staying in your marriages...you both obviously realize that there are things that come "first".

If you need "me" time, take it. If he loves you he'll still be there.

Enjoy the chaos...(from a woman who left it all behind for her AP, and will be alone this X-mas).

benska

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Registered: 10-23-2009
Wed, 12-16-2009 - 12:56am

Beska,


AP would be fine with my decision, I know this. I have canceled plans like this before due to chaos and more important obligations. I was just wondering how someone else would feel, esp after much planning and talking. I think I just more than anything needed to vent this and I dunno...the holidays make me goofy in A-ville. That's all it is.