Mixed Messages From My Other Man
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| Fri, 09-12-2003 - 2:14pm |
I figured it was just a one time thing but it wasn't. The couple days after that we ended up making out again when I and some other co-workers went out again. We never exchanged phone numbers, after all he knows I have boyfriend and has actually met him once. But I had some co-workers over to my house, and we exchanged phone numbers so that I could call him when I got home since he left work early. That night we ended up sleeping together! It was absolutely wonderful. Couple days after that I went over to his house again and we just talked and hung out, just gave each other a good night kiss. Then the next night went over there again and we slept together.
He then left for Germany for two weeks and got back last weekend. I had called him the night before he got back and told him to give me a call. He did, and then said he call me back he was playing poker with some friends and he might be finished soon. He never called but then called on 2 days later with some story that he left his phone at his friends house and didn't get it until then. He invited me over, so I came over and we cuddled and talked and made out (on period so couldn't have sex). I saw him at work 2 days later and told him to give me a call if he wanted to hang out. He did, but he was tired so he told me to call him yesterday after I left college. I did and figured that we would see each other. We talked for a bit and then I got off the phone and said call me later if you want to hang out, and he said he would but didn't.
So that leads me to now. He is unattached. His girlfriend and him broke up a little bit ago because she moved to a different city. I think we have a connection, it just hasn't been all physical, everytime we see each other we stay up talking and cuddling, really getting to know each other. I just feel like he is sending mixed messages and I don't know what to do.
I have to see him tonight at work, and I don't know how to act. I feel myself getting emotionally attached, but I don't know how he feels. Should I just get over it, and be neutral, cordial yet impersonal. What should I do? ANy input would be awesome! Thank you so Much!

Welcome to the board! Can I mix ya somethin' up from the bar? LOL
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So should I just act normally how I would any other day? And realize that I can't have expectations of him. I want it to continue but I am not sure if he does. Should I have talk with him about that?
I will take a Vodka and Cranberry Please :)
I have thought about just calling it off with OM and stopping. But I feel like I have my heart in two places now....
And yes, differing schedules can affect things. That's why famous actors have such a hard time maintaining marriages. You bond with the people you see every day and if you're apart all the time, eventually you are going to go in separate directions mentally. But you have to make time, no matter how busy your schedules. If the one romantic evening works out, why not schedule a date night? If not, it might be best to tell him you'd like to try seeing other people for a while. That's always the way to let them down gently without breaking it off 100%. Of course, that'll work both ways and you'll have to deal with the possibility of him seeing other women, but maybe that's the kick your relationship needs.