Mixed signals

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Mixed signals
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Thu, 08-12-2010 - 11:42am

Good Morning.


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Registered: 08-05-2010
In reply to: soulshine79
Thu, 08-12-2010 - 3:19pm
Thank you for the recap.
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In reply to: soulshine79
Thu, 08-12-2010 - 4:30pm
MIne is 8 years older than me. We hung out by ourselves a lot without my husband when it was all innocent and he had no problem with it. It's been obvious to a few people that we had something going but that was before we even realized it. My dh figured something was up when he caught me lying about how long I was at his house for, and overheard me on the phone talking about meeting up with him. I was able to pass it off though but it raised a lot of suspicion. They ended up getting in a huge fight for a few weeks due to something unrelated, but I know part of it was over me. Since then my dh doesn't know we talk or anything and it has gone much better. We are planning on keeping it that way until our week together and we can be back out in the open after that. In a way it's easier that it's his friend because if I'm seen with him or get caught talking to him on the phone it's no big deal. He's been here a couple times just me and him since the fight and it's all been good. As long as we don't get caught red handed it's easy to hide.
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In reply to: soulshine79
Thu, 08-12-2010 - 4:33pm

Soul,


Iam also in an A with a single AP. I am M. What makes my situation even more difficult is that we are in a LDA. Actually just this morning I asked him if he has maybe met someone recently and his reply was "I meet people all the time, but don't have the time and energy to pursue a relationship with anyone".


So I didn't say anything to him about it, but later I thought: "hmm, I know you are very busy with work and stuff, but what kind of a reasoning is that."

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In reply to: soulshine79
Thu, 08-12-2010 - 4:46pm

Hi Hisgirl_forever,


I'm also married with a single AP and

 


Much peace & Love,


Rayne


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Registered: 01-18-2008
In reply to: soulshine79
Thu, 08-12-2010 - 5:33pm

Hi Rayne,


"I can't do it without risking myself. I always have to be a step ahead and sometimes I feel he doesn't understand that."


I totally feel the same way at times. As far as the dating thing goes I have told him that I won't be in his way if he one day meets someone, but I never forget to add "even now that we are so close to making it". It's a bit mean, I know. I just pray and hope

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In reply to: soulshine79
Fri, 08-13-2010 - 11:39am

I met my AP on AM.

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In reply to: soulshine79
Fri, 08-13-2010 - 11:47am

Morning,


Thank you for your reply.

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In reply to: soulshine79
Fri, 08-13-2010 - 1:55pm

I get along fine with his wife. We are not close by any means and don't hang out. Him and my husband and I have the same interests, she doesn't, so when we do things it's usually the three of us. We camp together and stuff like that but that's it. I don't spend a lot of time around her at all. When we go out as couples she tends to gravitate towards my husband, which is fine with me, I know there is nothing going on.

We won't be together the whole week but will have a considerable amount of time to spend together. We should be able to pull off two nights together during that time too. I really don't know what's going to happen after that. We are supposed to go back to normal but he is already throwing hints that might not happen. I've met his brother a couple times and we've done things together with him and his wife. Before anything got physical he asked my AP what was going on between us, AP's wife has also commented on the fact that we argue like we are married. All this was before we had even acknowledged our feelings towards each other. I guess our chemistry is just there. We've been drawn towards each other for years but kept it in check.

I hope things go the way you want with your AP. It really sucks being in limbo.

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In reply to: soulshine79
Fri, 08-13-2010 - 2:29pm
Sometimes you cant deny who yuo are drawn to. I know if my ap and I were around people we knew they would definitely pick up on it.

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