Mixed Signals

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Registered: 12-12-2003
Mixed Signals
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Mon, 12-15-2003 - 10:15am

I know this has been discussed over and over...but I'm really in need of some advice. I'm really getting mixed signals from OM. Physically, the line has not been "crossed" but verbally...it's been crossed, stomped on, kicked...you get the picture. This is still very new though...we haven't seen each other since we had "the talk" on Friday about exploring these "vibes" -- remember he's a client of mine.


So backtracking a bit. Friday, we talked for about 2 hours..and out of one side of his mouth he's saying "i can't say the thought's never crossed my mind....i want you...." and other similar statements. Out of the otherside of his mouth he's saying "we need to keep this under control...nothing but disaster...." at the same time, we're having some incredible phone sex.


Now here's my delimma. I could possible through work, see him tomorrow (either him or his wife, I never know until they walk through the door), I'm thinking after our conversation Friday, it'll be him. But I REALLY want to contact him today. Just want to talk to him again. Things were left "open" but with the assumption that we'd refrain....but after the conversation on Friday, I only want it and him more. I'm worried if I contact him today, and if he really wants to keep it under control, that he'll start sending his wife and quit coming himself. But if I can just wait one more day, he'll come and I know he couldn't resist if I'm standing there in front of him. It's a lot easier to say, "we shouldn't" over the phone. LOL I know he wants to....just getting mixed signals.

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Registered: 09-03-2003
In reply to: hdcmomma
Mon, 12-15-2003 - 11:03am
I don't have much doubt you and this man are probably headed for exactly what you want. It sounds like you're going that way to me, anyway. Of course he's going to fight it. It's a big step to take, especially if he's never done anything like this before. Why don't you call him "just to say hi" and take a hint from him where the conversation should go? You could even say, "Is it okay that I called you today?" If he's going to start sending his wife, he's probably going to do that anyway; a little phone call isn't going to make that much of a difference. Is there some work excuse you could make up to talk to him?
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Registered: 12-12-2003
In reply to: hdcmomma
Mon, 12-15-2003 - 11:19am

Are you reading my mind? LOL! I emailed him this morning about a topic he's knowledgable in because I want to buy my son a gift related to the topic (an instrument) His email is not private so I HAVE to make up an excuse. So I said, 'what's the website you told me about...and I have a couple other questions, give me a call'...


I expect to hear from him around lunch. I'll keep ya updated.