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| Fri, 05-21-2004 - 8:14am |
I'm just gonna leave him alone and give him space. I'm sure he has a lot to deal with with the damage to wife's suv from the deer. And probably work.
If it was me, he would have called and told me to end things or lay low for a while right?
Don't know if he's feeling guilty since he was with me when he hit the deer! Wish he would call and talk to me. But I already texted him once last fri. and Tues. and never got a response to either one. Last night all I did was cry. Cry for the fact that he was in my life for almost 1 1/2 yrs. and he can't give me a call to tell me what's up with him or us. I tend to over think things anyway! We've been getting together every week for like 2 months straight now. Before that it was like every other week and sometimes 2 weeks, but I'm going crazy here!!!
sorry I"m whining..lol.. chrissluver

The way I would think about this is just about the same as you. However, I would definitely be thinking that there is a possiblity he IS feeling guilty and thinking of ending it. Men sometimes freak out over the simplest of things and it can make them want to take a better look at what they are doing. I guess we all would do that. So with that said I would do what I suggested. Lay low. Do not contact him. You have been together 1 1/2 years, if he is a good guy he will contact you either way. I look at it like if you give him the time and are not in his face he will have the time to get over it and remember why he was with you in the first place. Its a bump in the road, you just have to ride it out.
I know he will call you
dd
If and when he calls do you think i should tell him I thought he felt guilty or ask him if he did? if he doesn't bring it up first..
I had an instance with my mm 6 weeks into our relationship where I said something (I was whispering) to him while under the influence of a very strong Vodka tonic that he thought his W could have overheard. Now mind you I thought we were alone in the room and he had made a face at me that could have only been conscrewed as being sexy. So I thought we were safe. He then made a surprised face. Well he told me a couple days later on the phone his W was walking in the room behind me when I did that. It totally freaked him out and I think that was the catylist for him to end our relationship. He acted cold to me on Monday when he came to my office. I called him the next morning and left a vm that I had something important to ask him. When he called me back that afternoon I asked if I had done something to ruin our little situation and that is when he started with the "i feel guilty dont' you"? And he ended it.
He then came down to my office and we talked with me tearing up most of the time. We parted friendly. Of course 6 weeks later we resumed and have been fine ever since. I'm just saying with all this that even and EMA has it's ups and downs that are sometimes present in a typical R. You never know what might make your relationship turn a corner, for good or bad.
I don't know your mm... mine seems to be very open and honest with his ideas and feelings, but I have to probe sometimes to get him to say something.
I know you expected a response from a sexy text message.... but he might not have been ready to respond like he usually does. Just remember, that he needs time most likely or if he is like my guy he is distracted by something else...work...fight with W. Let him sort it out for a few more days before you try to contact him again
dd
It's hard as hell (lots of tears), but it usually wills works itself out. If not, then you can be strong and move on. Sounds harsh I know, but you were a whole before him, and can be after him!
Keep yourself busy, busy, busy for a while. Men usually don't like "needy & naggy" women in an EMA. Those are the wives! Don't listen to your head and screw yourself up. Don't call, have him not answer and then think, "Oh I shouldn't have just called!" Make him wonder what you're doing. Men, love them for everything, like the challenge. You probably were a challenge in the beginning!
Be yourself....and true to your heart.
Jen
Chrissluver
for what's it's worth - I do the same thing! (esp when I have PMS like I have this week) About 3 times this week MM said he would call back later in the day - but, hasn't. Okay - so it was ok for me to go out of my way on Mon to give a litttle....see, we're all alike! I'm sure something has come up - sit down and don't call him. He'll call - I'm sure. This is way harder than I ever dreamed of, huh?
Has he done this before? Perhaps he mentioned a big project at work that he might be involved in? They tend to lose track of time when that is the case.
Hang in there, and keep yourself busy.