MM Just Received a Rose?

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Registered: 10-21-2003
MM Just Received a Rose?
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Wed, 05-12-2004 - 3:52pm
I just bumped into MM on a different floor and he had a single red rose in his hand and was opening a card as he was walking towards the elavator! OMG! He was smiling big as he opened the card. What perfect timing for us to cross paths. Well...it sure in the hell wasn't from me, so my bubble has completely bursted. I came back to my office and tears started strolling down my face.

What the hell am I supposed to do or think? I'm hurt...I'm mad...I'm freaked out.

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Registered: 12-31-2003
Wed, 05-12-2004 - 6:04pm
Is he married? maybe it could have came from his wife.
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Registered: 10-21-2003
Wed, 05-12-2004 - 7:37pm
Yes, he's M and I hope it came from his W! But it just blew me away. Here I was thinking things were a certain way (in my own mind) and I wanted to believe they weren't in love and doing things like that for each other, but now I just have no idea how to think....or what to think. I mean, I know they are M and that sort of thing is expected, but I guess I just lost touch of reality for a bit. It makes me question whether or not I can do this. Honestly, I'm JEALOUS!

How do I handle this? I'm usually the one to initiate contact, but now I don't know that I can after seeing that. It hurt too much. I'm really confused now.

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Registered: 04-01-2004
Thu, 05-13-2004 - 12:51am
could it be from his wife.....??

just wondering -- seems likely to me -

K

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Registered: 04-01-2004
Thu, 05-13-2004 - 12:58am
it's ok to be jealous...

my MM knows I am in a healthy M - my MM also says he gets jealous/envious of my H

because he is allowed to spend so much time with me that MM would love to get to

spend with me -

Just listening to me talk on the phone to my H gets my MM in a tizzy sometimes

because I am very sweet and loving and laugh and giggle just like I do with MM -

But, MM also knows what he does for me on a level not even my H does -

I adore both of these men and I get jealous of things my MM does for his W - but I

also know in my heart my MM would love to do the same things for me but we just have

to find other ways-

You may just be upset because you can't send a flower...my MM hates that --- he wants to

more than anything and what I have started doing is buying myself the flowers from the

farmer's market and bring them home -

so about once a month MM would buy me a bouquet and when I brought it home it was

no big deal ----

you just have to find ways to handle your jealousy and envy - it's normal to feel this way but not so much as to make you cry --- he is M so you just have to understand he has

a connection with you or he wouldn't be with you -

Don't be angry - he would probably feel the same if he saw you with flowers....etc

K

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Registered: 03-23-2004
Thu, 05-13-2004 - 8:23am
I agree with many responding on your situation. It did, most

likely come from his wife. I know if this happened to me

I would feel as you, sad and thinking how could he enjoy

a card and a rose so much, it did not even come from me.

Maybe his wife was feeling guilty of something, and wanted

to give him something sweet. I do not really know.

Just my opinion...let us know what happens after yoiu

confront him. Why don't you send yourself some

flowers, let him notice them? Do a card like from a secret

admirer?

Just a thought..

Bunny

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Thu, 05-13-2004 - 8:52am
I don't think there is anyone on this board that wouldn't feel the same way you do right now. Sometimes reality smacks you in the face and you resent it. I haven't had the experience of seeing an exchange of emotions like you did, but I've been exposed to situations I would rather not hear about. Hmm that sentence didn't make much sense but i've heard of things they have done that show me they do have a good relationship.

If I were you I would not contact him again until you feel more at ease and "over it". When you do talk to him again, he will be the same as he always is and you will feel immediately better. Sweep it under the rug and forget about it. Somethings you have no control over.

dd