MM leaving to go on Vacation

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Registered: 12-02-2003
MM leaving to go on Vacation
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Fri, 12-05-2003 - 11:07am
My MM leaves tomorrow for vacation w/ the W (they are separated.) We haven't actually had a full blown EMA but just a lot of flirting etc. I e-mailed him on Wednesday b/c I needed to hear back from him on his feelings of us working together again. It's friday and he still hasn't called or anything. In 10 months we have talked everyday. Either on the phone or e-mail. What is up? The last time he went of vacation out of the country, I was on vacation myself so I don't know if it is b/c he is busy trying to get out of the country and put up Christmas decorations or what. That's what he said he was going to do last night. AAHH. JUst freaking out. I want to talk to him before tomorrow. Should I call him or e-mail him?

Mic
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 12-05-2003 - 11:15am
I'm sorry Tired and I really don't mean to sound mean or heartless but have you thought that maybe there's a little obsession going on from your end for this guy? Just an observation form some of your post and really I don't mean it in a mean way. NMR
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 12-05-2003 - 12:04pm
hey cookie (that's my childhood nickname!) -- make your own decision on the job. you really don't need MM's input as it's your career/money/life, right? make the decision that is right for YOU!

regarding talking with MM, if you've left voicemail and/or email messages and he hasn't called back, he needs the space from you. keep your self-respect, girl. don't chase him down. he's just like any guy -- MM is shutting you out because his plate is full of other stuff HE considers more pressing. so let him go on vacation -- don't harass him. your answer is right in front of you.

do your own thing professionally as well as socially and let him to his own thing too!

good luck and stay busy,

gurl

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Mon, 12-08-2003 - 9:25am
Life is much better at the moment with my MM. MM does want me to take the job at his office but warned the rumors would be rampant. But he says it would be nice to see me on a some what daily basis. When I worked there before we ate lunch together in his office daily. So we had an hour and a half for just us. It was great! I still haven't decided yet. The amount of money that I want may just be a little to much.

He e-mailed me back on Friday, life at the office had been awful last week. He was really apologetic and he said he understood me freaking out and that he should do better when it comes to communication with me. He called Friday afternoon b/c he wanted to meet up before he went on vacation. I didn't answer and called back like an hour later. We played phone tag the rest of the night. Both of us were trying to avoid his W and my H knowing that we were calling each other. But Saturday morning, I was working and he called me. So Saturday afternoon, on his way to pick up W he came over. My H wasn't here. We talked for awhile. He didn't want to go on vacation w/ W. He asked if I would just leave and go w/ him. He said I'll buy a plane ticket for your son too. I laughed. It made me feel good to think that he had actually been thinking of taking me to Ireland w/ him. He said Mic, I'm going to miss you.

There is a party next weekend. THat we were both invited too. He is going to try to go. I showed him my cocktail dress for the party. He said take pictures if I don't make it. I want to see you in this dress. He hugged me. Kissed me. and left.

still know full blow EMA, but you know. it's better. i told MM, i feel like I obsess too much about you. he said i do that to you b/c i leave you hanging too much. i get busy and i should make time for you. I said yeah but i've got to move on and go on with my life. he said that's up to you.. moving on. but if i had my way. you wouldn't move on. he said, i need you more than you realize.

ahh, so opinions?

Mic

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Registered: 10-16-2003
Mon, 12-08-2003 - 10:50am
Good Morning,

I am confused. Did you say you & your MM have not been intimate and you have been seeing him for 10 months? Why???? I give you alot of credit but I don't understand why you would risk your M for a man you are not being physical with.

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Mon, 12-08-2003 - 1:44pm
Let me clarify, we started flirting about 10 months ago. I started working for him 7 months ago and had to quit due to unforseen cicumstances w/ my special care needs child. In probably July, the flirting became intense but I backed off b/c I was scared of losing this MM as my close friend. So about 2 months ago, things became intense. We started the serious flirting, calling, coming to see each other, e-mail, etc. We are both in a local theatre group together and there one night things became heated. It is all very similar to other situations on the message board. I feel like I am not risking my marriage basically b/c my marriage is over. My marriage being over has nothing to do w/ the MM either. I am leaving b/c it will be a better situation for me and my child. The MM and I have a huge age difference. I sometimes wonder if he realizes that if he made a pass that I would let him. My dearest best friend who is the only person in my life that knows really believes that MM has no clue as to my true feelings. She thinks that when I told him I had a crush on him that it didn't mean I want to start something with you. Anyway, I am not risking my marriage for him. I would like to be more involved with him and I have no clue how to step things up a notch or two or three.

Leslie

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 12-08-2003 - 3:44pm
My MM is also leaving on a vacation soon with family. I usually don't call him or email him during that time. He is the kind of person who takes off rarely and I want him to enjoy his vacation as much he can. Don't want to dump my troubles or misgivings on him. He derseves it and he better enjoy it as much he can. And the reward from all that is that he comes back missing me very much!!! LOL