MM make a good life partner?

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Registered: 06-03-2003
MM make a good life partner?
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Thu, 12-18-2003 - 10:09am
I have been a lurker here for months and months and I am very proud of all of the posters here. It is very brave to put your feelings out there and see how people respond back to you.

Now, back to my question. I have been with MM for 3 years. I have been married for 14 years and have a 2 yr old DD. My H and I are very compatible and happy. MM is completely the opposite of H. MM and I have a connection that will never be broken. We have had it since we dated in high school 20 yrs ago. We just seem to click with each other. BUT MM and I both know that we would never make it as a couple. Our life styles are so very different that we would never be able to mesh it into a workable full-time R. He has all the traits that really turn me on but I would hate to have them in a H.

Is there anyone out there who has this same kind of R?

SAM

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Registered: 06-30-2003
Thu, 12-18-2003 - 10:36am
Good question, Sam.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 12-18-2003 - 10:47am
Hi Charmed, I'm not certain if I truly believe in "Life Partner" but I guess if I did Friendship would have to be my answer! NMR
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Registered: 07-27-2003
Thu, 12-18-2003 - 12:03pm
Two people who share somewhat similar interests and tend to think along the same ideological lines. I’m not saying the two people have to be “twins,” but having these particulars in common makes for a good life partner (I would think).

Opposites attract, but can unfortunately make for a rough ride throughout a marriage (Lord, do I know that!!!!)

Charlotte

 

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Registered: 05-21-2003
Thu, 12-18-2003 - 1:07pm
My MM would mak ethe best life partner for me. We are truely best friends. I have never had a friendship with H. MM and I are so much alike. We have the same interests. We NEVER get tired of talking. And I love the way he loves his kids and my kids. He has been a great support for my daughter even before the A. Being a good dad is one of the greatest things about him.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 12-18-2003 - 2:08pm
hey sam -- they say opposites attract, but my MM is soooo like me, impatient, in control, a little jealous, outgoing, and sexy as all get-out! i think we could be life partners, but jeez, it would take alot of work and compromise and i'm getting too old for all that! BF and i get along so well now and our life together is sweet and amazing! i kinda think MM and i would butt heads just as much as we would tangle the sheets because we're both over-the-top sexually and emotionally. can't say if that would be a good combination or not.

so i guess i'm undecided about MM as a life partner because i haven't really thought about it much and MM and I certainly haven't discussed anything like that -- other than that if we were together, we would have sex every day and we'd kill each other!!

gurl

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Registered: 06-30-2003
Thu, 12-18-2003 - 2:09pm

Here is what I think makes for a good life partner:


A friend who cares for the spouse's opinion. Small things do matter and its the small things that need a personal touch from the spouse. I don't believe in don't sweat the small stuff in relationships like h & w. Respect for each other's wishes and making an effort to do as much to accomodate them.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 12-18-2003 - 2:12pm
i believe in a life partner, but not as in "married". just me, i guess. i want a man i can be friends with, plus a sexual attraction, able to take care of himself and me, if necessary as i would for him, smart as in life experience and common sense, not just "higher education", and able to get my jokes. a great kisser and good-looking wouldn't hurt either!

gurl