MM pretty much told our boss!

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MM pretty much told our boss!
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Thu, 09-11-2003 - 10:15pm
I was training on a new job at work today. See mm and I were sent to a part of our plant where neither of us wanted to go, but at least together, which was just an accident that we ended up together. Anyhow we've both been training this week, but managed to stick close together. Until today when they sent me to one end where we wouldn't be anywhere near each other. So when there was a break I went down to say hi. He had me come sit close to him, even though our coworkers were around and he told me that he missed me today. He then told me that he was going to talk to our boss and ask to be put on the same shift. He said he'd tell him we're "friends" and he wanted to at least be on the same shift. Then while no one was looking he kissed me. He is so bold at times. Actually alot of the times. He came down to see me at the end of the shift and then asked me to go with him to talk to the boss. I was at first reluctent to do so, because I felt embarresed to say that to a boss. But if he was willing to put himself out there for me then I would be right behind him. So we went in there and he asked straight out if we could be on the same shift. It wasn't needed for us to say anything about our relationship, I think to everyone who knows us can see it. So he said sure! What a relief to us. It would have been impossible to ever see each other if he had put us on different shifts. Even if he left today we wouldn't see each other with the way our shifts at work go. So I'm so happy that he was willing to stand up and say something for us. I don't know if the boss knows he's m, but if he does, mm didn't care. Anyhow, I'm just going on and on. I just couldn't believe he was willing to go out on a limb like that about us. People all suspect and tease us, but we don't answer and we just joke back, instead of getting all defensive. That's when you look guilty. Anyhow, do any of you have people talking at work? What were their reactions and comments? How did you all deal with the talk?
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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 7:40am
HAVING A EMA AT WORK HAS TO BE ONE OF THE HARDEST THINGS TO KEEP SECRET. FOR US BOTH OF US ARE MARRIED AND MANAGERS IN OUR RESPECTIVE DEPARTMENTS. I MAKE MY OWN SCHEDULE AND SINCE HE IS AN ASSISTANT MGR. I CAN CHECK HIS SCHEDULE BEFORE I POST MINE. SO FAR NO ONE HAS NOTICED THAT WE ALWAYS WORK TOGETHER..AT LEAST I DON'T THINK SO. I AM A FLIRT ANYWAY SO I JUST KEEP UP THE ACT WITH OTHER WORKERS SO NO ONE NOTICES HOW I AM WITH HIM. WE SNEAK AWAY INTO A CORNER AT WORK EVERYTIME WE ARE THERE. IT'S IS BOTH NERVE RACKING AND EXCITING AND SO FAR WE HAVE NEVER BEEN CAUGHT. SO FAR WE ONLY SEE EACH OTHER AT WORK AND BEFORE WORK BUT WE BOTH WANT THAT TO CHANGE. HE IS IN COLLEGE AND WILL GRAD IN DEC. AT THAT POINT HE PLANS TO LEAVE WORK, TOWN AND THE W, WHO REFUSES TO MOVE. I KNOW HE HAS TOLD ME THAT HE DOES NOT LOVE HER AND IS ONLY STAYING SO THAT HE CAN SEE THE KIDS. I BELIEVE HIM. I CAN SEE IN HIS EYES HOW UNHAPPY HE IS AND HE SAYS HE IS ONLY HAPPY WHEN HE IS WITH THEM. I KNOW THAT OUR EMA WILL END AT THAT POINT..IF HE LEAVES TOWN. BUT FOR NOW I AM ENJOYING THE TIME WE HAVE TOGETHER.

JUST TRY TO ACT NATURAL. BE YOURSELF AND IGNORE THE RUMORS. JUST TELL THEM IF THEIR LIVES ARE SO BORING THAT THEY HAVE TO MAKE THINGS UP, YOUR GLAD THAT THEY THINK YOUR LIFE IS INTERESTING.

GOOD LUCK
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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 9:19am
We have people talking at work, and we both laugh it off. We have gotten defensive about it -- I've gone so far as to bring the rumors up to people and say, "I know people are talking, but seriously, nothing's going on." The only thing I worry about is that if someday we happen to get together, I'll look like a total liar, but that's looking less and less likely to happen.
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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 10:29am
I like that line about if their lives are so boring that they have to make things up, you're glad that they think your life is interesting! Can I use that!

Lucky

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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 10:38am
MM sounds great...I agree...that was wonderful of him to do that for you two. He sounds like a keeper!

We do have people talking at work, but we have had, on and off, for over a year. Funny thing is, we've only been together for 4 months, lol! I used to work for him last year, and we really are a wonderful team together. Everyone knows I'm completely devoted to him and always have been, so that's where the rumors came from last year, but they died out very quickly. This time, though, the rumors are persisting. EVERYone has something to say about us and it's a little wierd. But, he and I are big flirts, and we both just keep on flirting with everyone, including each other. We each get a little jealous sometimes ;-) but basically, we have to. We don't especially try to deny anything, but we don't admit to anything, either, we just kind of turn a deaf ear to it. So far, we've figured that if we don't add any fuel to the fire, the rumors will die out. But so far, they aren't.

And people are starting to treat us as a couple at work, also. If they have a question about one of our districts while one of us is out, people automatically go to the other one of us and ask what to do, rather than go to our boss, which would be the normal protocol. So that worries OM a little, because I'm M and he doesn't want our R to hurt my job. I don't think it will, though. I no longer work for him...haven't in 9 months. We're at the same level of management, now. My performance hasn't been negatively impacted by the A. So, I think I'm safe as far as the job is concerned. I just don't want anyone coming into the courtroom during custody hearings testifying to the brazenness of my infidelity.

Lucky

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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 11:29am
Oh, and something just happened about ten minutes ago with MM. We were in a roomful of people and someone said something insulting to me (jokingly) and MM said, "Don't be saying that to her. That's my woman." So instead of denying or defending us against the rumor, he's making a big joke about it. Problem with that is, it just continues to bring up the rumors. Wouldn't it be better to mention them as little as possible, or do people feel like if we can joke about it like that, it must not be true?

Either way, I must admit it was kinda neat being referred to as "his woman." Even though I'm leaning toward this being more of a flirting friendship than an actual A, it's nice to have someone be so proudly possessive like that.

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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 11:52am
ISN'T IT FUNNY HOW LITTLE REMARKS MAKE YOU FEEL SPECIAL. I CATCH MY MM MAKING LITTLE STATEMENTS TO OUR CO-WORKERS ALL OF THE TIME. AND ALTHOUGH THEY ARE VERY VAGUE REMARKS... IKNOW WHAT HE MEANS. AND THEN THERE ARE THE LOOKS..HE'LL PEEK AROUND THE CORNER TO SEE WHAT I AM DOING AND JUST SMILE IF I SEE HIM. OF COURSE THEN MY MIND GOES TO MUSH AS WELL AT THE REST OF ME. OH WELL IT IS GOOD FOR A RUSH ANYWAY. I KEEP TELLING HIM THAT HE NEEDS TO BE A LITTLE MORE DISCREET BUT I DON'T THINK HE'LL EVER LISTEN.

GOOD LUCK TO ALL
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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 12:55pm
Oh, definitely. Lately we've had to put up a front because every conversation we've had has been in front of people, but I've noticed he seems to be thinking about our future. The other day he was asking about how we pay our bills. He was asking where I'd want to buy a house together when we are together. We were talking about how I wear contacts and I said he'd never see me in my glasses because I don't wear them in public. He said, "Yes I will. You'll have to wear them when we're watching TV in bed late at night." It's crazy, but that's probably the most romantic thing he's said. It just put this visual in my head of us in bed together watching TV that made me so, so happy... It's just little things that make me think maybe we will be together someday. That's more important to me than having him today. I'd rather not have him today and have the hope we might be together in five or ten years than to have him today and know it'll all be over next year. Maybe I'm just a dreamer, though.
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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 11:20pm
I think that it is better to either just ignore or joke along with them. Denying at least where we work seems to make people think you're full of it. But we work in a mill and people tend to be crude & the fact that there are hardly any women doesn't help. The guys can really be blunt. And the few women that are there tend to be very jealous and don't want other women around their guy friends. I'm sure it's like alot of other places people can't think of anything else to do then poke their nose where it doesn't belong. It doesn't bother me all that much, but I'm not the one who's m. Infact some stuff happened today. MM & I were laughing about it. We were in a break room just us two. And these cranemen were out in the storage building moving stuff and they were talking a bunch of bull. So mm decides to get on the two way radio and talk some stuff too. So since we're new they didn't know who it was and one of the guys who happens to be an ex kinda was in one of the cranes, so I walked out of the breakroom so he could see who was talking. And the next thing we here on the radio is "oh, it's the lovebirds!" We just started to laugh. We always get that flak, I mean what do we expect? We are always together. Oh, also when we went to take our launch break, mm was already in breakroom, I walk in and pull up a chair next to him. I see that this guy that I don't know talking to mm. I just knew all of a sudden who he was. It was mm's w's cousin! I backed off a little. When he walked out mm just smiled at me & I said that's him isn't it? See I knew that her cousin worked there, we just didn't know where. Now we know. Got to watch that. He's not in our department, but still. He doesn't seem worried, so I'm not. And mm's w asked him to go out of town with mm's brother and girlfriend. He said no, he didn't want to go. I'm so glad, I've gotten really jealous lately, more then normal. But he hardly does things really so it's not that bad. Anyhow, I like the comment about people thinking our life must be interesting since they pay so much attention to it. I've used that before, but like I said, we just kind of go along with it.