MM talking about leaving his W
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MM talking about leaving his W
| Fri, 08-20-2010 - 5:28pm |
Hi all!
I'm so confused and just don't know what to think.
| Fri, 08-20-2010 - 5:28pm |
Hi all!
I'm so confused and just don't know what to think.
A whole lot of things are
You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull
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kitty...you have very valid concerns and I think I see why.
These issues (loss of familial relationships, loss of social connections/status) crop up in any divorce, but it seems compounded in your mind b/c I don't see any other "reason" given for him leaving his W other than you. That may not be the case, you just didn't state it here. That's a LOT of pressure on you and your relationship...I know you're thinking, "what if he goes through all of that, and we don't work out?". Valid question.
This is why it's pretty universally stated among professionals in this arena (therapists) that the reasons for a D should never include another partner...leave because the M is bad, abusive, etc., but never for another person...it creates a dynaminc that is very difficult to overcome with the new(er) partner.
I agree with lexi and hiskimber's posts..
my thoughts are that your doubts are well founded because he's still married.
imagine a time and place where he's divorced, and still a father to his kids, and manages his family life as a divorced father.
No there is definately no easy answer.