MM's Wife lied and other news

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Registered: 07-27-2003
MM's Wife lied and other news
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Wed, 09-03-2003 - 11:20pm
After mm's W confronted me last thursday, I saw mm and told him what happened, including what I said to his W. I have never lied to mm and he knows this, we are best friends, if not lovers. He then confronted his W, and she said that she was NICE to me, (HA!) and that all she did was ask me if I had seen him,(HA!HA!). He came to see me today, after calling his W's home, and checking to make sure she was there so he could. I thought he might be mad at me after what I said to his W, after all I don't put up with crap from anybody, but he wasn't and he knows that I stand up for myself. He said that he hated these "drive by" visits, and it was driving him crazy. He said that he is separated and only stops by to see the kids. Not that it matters to me, because I am working things out with H, (trying to convince myself that feelings aren't there for mm). Then I told him my news, that I might be pregnant with H's baby, (PLEASE, NO!!). When my doctor told me this last week, and insisted on a pregancy test, I couldn't believe it, and said...but I have my tubes tied!! The doctor says that it can happen though so I am waiting to find out on friday. MM was shocked to say the least, and I told him I will get the results on friday morning so he said he would stop by and find out. OMG, I am almost forty years old, and have 2 grown children and a grandchild, I can't have a baby now! What would I do with a baby?

itty


Edited 9/3/2003 11:21:01 PM ET by ittybrat2

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Thu, 09-04-2003 - 9:56am
You would love it, Itty. Of course.

Then you'd go buy stock in Huggies or Luvs... lol.

I'm glad your MM can see through his psychotic W. And I'm glad you and H are working things out on the M front. Overall, you sound pretty even-keeled about things. I hope you are happy.

As for the baby... *shrug*... I guess you'll see what happens. I have three and in no way want a fourth... not myself anyway, though adoption is under discussion. But I am soooo done with the baby stage, so I know what you mean. My next child will be 25 with an excellent job to support his dear old mom... because right now my youngest is at TERRIBLE two, and I am ready to throttle him!

Keep us posted, Itty. Always good to get an update from you.

lily

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Registered: 07-27-2003
Thu, 09-04-2003 - 3:59pm
well, Lily, like I said, I have two grown and one almost there and a grandbaby, just the thought of another one...ugh! Diapers, and middle of the night feedings, just the thought exhausts me, I watch my 18 month old grandbaby for a couple hours and he tires me out! But I think H is hoping I am, it's something he's wanted since day 1, since we don't have any together, all of our kids are from our previous m's. I think he believes that somehow it will anchor us together. Hmmmph, men. Only we can make our marriage better, a baby will just add more stress. Well I guess I'll find out tomorrow when I see tomorrow, I probably could have avoided alot of stress this week by getting one of those home test things, but I was too nervous that it would come out positive!

Well, I'm off to be a basket case until tomorrow........

itty

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Registered: 03-29-2003
Thu, 09-04-2003 - 4:05pm
Oh my Itty, you are quite in a crazy position.

I'm crossing my fingers for you that everything

works out the way you want them too!!!

Keeping you in my thoughts! ~passion