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Monday Roll Call!
| Mon, 02-09-2004 - 3:51pm |
i want to see who's on the board (as if i didn't already know since i'm here all the time!) and meet and greet newbies, lurkers and old friends.

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1. I'm Dustyrose. I don't know why but I like being called Dusty. I guess because I feel I was "dusty and rusty" living without sex lol.
2. age: 42
3. Been having A for just over 2 whole years now.
4. First discovered this board about 6 months ago maybe?
5. I hope to gain support/share stories with others in my situation
6. Had a scare this morning, went to the Dr., I've been having a bladder infection and pain in my back. He says "you're only having sex with your H?". Me: "uh, yes". He's sending me for an ultrasound. I was freaking out. But he says its only to check if I have kidney stones or whatever. At first I was really scared in case I caught something, what would I tell H? But I'm a little mored calmed down now. MM says he has nothing I could catch from him, and he's had a V, and I had my tubes tied, so there's no risk of pregnancy. I was reading kidney infections give you back pains, so hopefully that's all it is. Hope I feel more like my normal self soon!!
Take care,
Dusty
Dayzrlost I chose that name because I thought of all the days that had been lost, It had been 12 years of holding in how I felt about MM, If I had just told him "BEFORE" the days would not be lost...
2. age please.
I'm 30, I'm handling it well!!
3. are you having an A/EMA? if so, how long has it been going on, what party are you (OW, MW, MM, SM).
yes, I’m having an A with a MM for 3 years now. I'm his OW, it took me awhile to get use to that when I came here, and I remember saying to him in an email, that I struggled being the Other women in his life... he has given me a hard time about it since, he says that I may be his OW, but I hold his heart, his dreams, his life with in me.
4. How long have you been on this board? Have you posted or are you lurking? Please come out of lurkdom and contribute!
I’ve been on this board for 4 months, I don’t post too often, as MM and I have good R. Things with us stay pretty smooth. We are "comfortable"
5. What do you hope to learn, gain from this board?
That our R is not unique, that there are 100's of us out there going through similar situation. I gain from every post.
6. any personal info you'd like to share -- children, singledom, job, hobbies, anything. Be general please and have fun!
I have 2 amazing boys that are my world!! I work for local charities, I'm very involved with my community, and I still a "daddy’s girl". I have a wonderful job, that allows MM and I to have some time together. I love to ROCK MM's world!! I’m a big sports fan (strange for a woman).
dayz
No More Regrets, because I have none:)
2. age please.
i'm 44 (ugh, i hate saying that, too!)
3. are you having an A/EMA? if so, how long has it been going on, what party are you (OW, MW, MM, SM).
yes, i'm having an A with a MM for almost 2 years now. I'm the MW.
4. how long have you been on this board? have you posted or are you lurking? please come out of lurkdom and contribute!
i've been on this board for 18 months. i've posted probably at least 200 times!!!!
5. what do you hope to learn, gain from this board?
I too have learned that i am not alone in this situation. I've made several good friends off the board!
6. any personal info you'd like to share -- children, singledom, job, hobbies, anything. be general please and have fun!
I've been Married for 12 years, I enjoy, reading, cooking and planning parties, spending time with all my friends and ofcourse spending time with MM (weather it is alone or with all our other buddies)!!
Saturday Sister -- because most of the great A happenings in my life happen on Saurdays.
2. age please.
47 (ugh, i'm getting used to saying that!)
3. are you having an A/EMA? if so, how long has it been going on, what party are you (OW, MW, MM, SM).
with any luck I'll be having an A with a MM in the next hour or so (too much detail?) I'm the MW
4. how long have you been on this board? have you posted or are you lurking? please come out of lurkdom and contribute!
been on the board less than two weeks.. I was desperate to talk to someone and it kept me from making a huge mistake an confiding in someone that couldn't handle the info.
5. what do you hope to learn, gain from this board?
it's so amazing to have people to share my thoughts and feelings with that don't judge me or lecture me or try and change me. I hope my experience can help others, and I'm thinking that being able to 'talk' about the things that come up will keep me from going nuts (okay, it's a pipe dream).
6. any personal info you'd like to share -- children, singledom, job, hobbies, anything. be general please and have fun!
i'm married - 11 years. My husband is a great guy, very sweet, but we have no passion and he is about 20 years older than me. I have a grown son who is everything to me and 3 wonderful grandkids. I'm a professional musician (as is my MM).
1) My name is ViperDiva . why ? well because I have a Viper RT10 con ( I love sports cars )
and Diva well because I am a singer ;-)
2) age - 40 .....well almost, I turn 40 on Feb 15th .Very proud of my age because I don't look it .
3) Having an A with a MM . I am single so that means I am the OW ;-(
It has been only 4 months , but why does it seem like more ??
4) Just found this board a week ago ( actually was looking for something like this )
The day I found it was the day I posted . I like to share my thoughts with others so I am not shy about posting , as you can probably see LOL LOL
5) I've learned that I am not alone in this situation. and that helps to deal with things .
I hope to make friends who can understand me as I can understand them . (My real life friends don't get it )
I like to share my life stories and advise , maybe it will help someone .
I like to hear what others have to say about situations I have never been through before to help me deal with things I never thought I would have to deal with .
Posting , and reading this board takes my mind off MM when he doesn't call or email me .
It helps give me the strength not to email him and be patient for him to contact me ........well seems to me he is the type that when I back off he wants me more . When I let him know how much I miss him he backs off .
I thought a guy would want the attention to know he is missed and desired , go figure . Men ! ;-)
Yes I know not even going to try to figure it out , I'll just let him miss me even though it makes me burn up inside ......... so thanks to the board and all you great cyber friends I can get through this .
6) I have only been in the US 8 years . I am an American citizen . Only been speaking English for 8 years . I grew up all over the world ( Europe , Israel and Asia . ) I speak 5 languages . I am here alone in the US I don't have any family .
I was married at the age of 18 , had a son at 21 ( he is now grown and in the Israeli Army ) I was divorced by the age of 25 .
I left the M because I wasn't happy and XH also abused me . Since then dated many , always hoping to find someone who has it all .
He doesn't have to have a lot of money and he doesn't have to be drop dead gorgeous . He just has to be a good person , kind heart , honest and sexual chemistry is a must !! It took me 15 years to find that person .....but then he broke up with me . I didn't believe I would ever find someone again .......and then I found my MM
Why did this have to happen to me ? why with a MM ?? Well it brought me here so maybe God has his reasons .
I do believe things happen for a reason for good or for bad there is always a bigger picture
I love to sing and write . I love to watch or read anything that has to do with comedy .
Ok I better stop now I probably shared way to much information and I don't want to bore you all ;-)
gurlfriend50 you are a great community leader , thanks for being here and for all your advice .
I think this is a great post because it is nice to know a bit more about your cyber friends .
Hope everyone is having a great day , ViperDiva
xoxo ViperDiva
Call me Juliet (or jules if you prefer). Its my OM' nickname for me.
2. age please.
i'm 31 and enjoying it every minute ;-)
3. are you having an A/EMA? if so, how long has it been going on, what party are you (OW, MW, MM, SM).
yes, I'm having an A with a OM for almost 4 years now. I'm the MW.
4. how long have you been on this board? have you posted or are you lurking? please come out of lurkdom and contribute!
I've been on this board for 6 months. Lurker for more...
5. what do you hope to learn, gain from this board?
Good peach tricks, LOL. I love to know I am not the only sap in love with her OM.
6. any personal info you'd like to share -- children, singledom, job, hobbies, anything. be general please and have fun!
I am a florist, married w/ H and no kids . Hobbies - apart from OM, fashion design. LOL
MM says I am spoiled and a drama queen so that is why I called myself that... if he had a internet name it would be MM_asshole
2. age please.
34
3. are you having an A/EMA? if so, how long has it been going on, what party are you (OW, MW, MM, SM).
I am a MW having an A with a MM for almost 5 months
4. how long have you been on this board? have you posted or are you lurking? please come out of lurkdom and contribute!
i've been on this board for 3 weeks, i've posted 2-3 times
5. what do you hope to learn, gain from this board?
I have learned with great relief that I am not alone and I posted knowing the answers already but I needed to hear it from others.
6. any personal info you'd like to share -- children, singledom, job, hobbies, anything. be general please and have fun!
I have been married 11 years to a pretty nice guy and I have two little children, 1 boy, 1 girl, adorable. I have a wonderful job, some great friends but only one who I can confess to as she is going through the same thing. I feel like I am a terrible person but this has been a lifesaver for me knowing that others out there are also addicted to the passion and have A's also!
In the past I have had a few other A's and the guys were great and the A's ended with us being friends after, no bitterness. My latest has been the only nightmare so I can relate to both sides.
Ducks..because that's what my Dad use to call me.
2. age please.
37 - ick....closer to 40 than I'd like!
3. are you having an A/EMA?
yes..I'm having an A with a MM for about 8 months..I guess I'm the OW.
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4. how long have you been on this board? have you posted or are you lurking?
I've been on the board mostly lurking for about 3 weeks.
5. what do you hope to learn, gain from this board?
It's amazing to me that there are other people out there going through similar emotions, situations that I am. I'm hoping to learn how to deal with my "roller-coaster" emotions, days with this A.
6. any personal info you'd like to share -- children, singledom, job, hobbies, anything. be general please and have fun!
I have three children that I adore and work FT in a pretty stressful, pressure filled environment. I love to read, play with my kids..okay, that's about all I have time for! I always use to joke with my H that I would never have time for an A. I have been married for 13 years and have totally fallen out of L with my H.
Philly Girl since I live in Philly:)
2. age please.
34 (getting ready to reach the big 40. My mid life crisis didn't wait for me to turn 40. Its in full bloom already.)
3. are you having an A/EMA? if so, how long has it been going on, what party are you (OW, MW, MM, SM).
I had an emotional affair (online) with a MM for about a few months. I am practicing NC now and trying to fall back in love with H (my new year's resolution).
4. how long have you been on this board? have you posted or are you lurking? please come out of lurkdom and contribute!
A month or so, I guess. I have posted off and on.
5. what do you hope to learn, gain from this board?
I want to convince myself that the MM(no matter how good it feels to talk to him) is not my soulmate and my H is my soulmate. I lurk on this board, end my affair and the betrayed spouse boards whenever I feel like contacting MM and then convince myself that cheating brings misery and heartache. LOL. I am religious so cheating would be a big sin and No No for me. I also believe that if you don't live a good life or hurt others in any way, it gets back to you in one form or another....unknown sicknesses, bad financial situations, unhappy kids, miseries that don't seem to go away..etc...etc. I also tend to think that A's may not always be related to bad marriages but can also stem from unhappy job-related, financial, kids situations although we might be quick to blame it on a bad marriage. In my case, my A started when I was trying to get back into the job market after taking a baby break and was spending a lot of time online frustrated and looking for jobs.
I know that once I was totally in love with H (he is sexy, cute, smart, successful) and I truly believe that the flame can be reignited. Working on that and it seems to be working. We didn't have a bad marriage anyway. The love is there and so is fantastic sex. It was only that H was too involved with work and travel and I felt neglected. I had my bases covered, he didn't have his. So hopefully, in a few months my heart will totally belong to H. I have BTW divulged my A to my hubby (minus a few details)a few days ago. He took it in stride although he was very upset but I have his attention now.
MM is a truly remarkable fella too but hey I will have him in another lifetime :) or if women could be polygamists, I would have them both. Currently, I am in love with two men. Hubby is 36, MM is 42.
6. any personal info you'd like to share -- children, singledom, job, hobbies, anything. be general please and have fun!
Married for 12 years, arranged marriage, 3 girls beautiful just like their mom, I am an engineer, hobbies include being an activist for various causes besides reading and music. If I weren't an engineer, I would be a civil rights attorney. Hubby is in the healthcare industry, MM is a professor.
Hey its time to watch Average Joe now:) Gotta run.
PG
You call me Lucky because SO has made me the luckiest woman in the world. I didn't think guys like him really existed. He has turned my world upside down, inside out, and has helped me to metamorph and redefine myself how *I* want to be defined.
2. age please.
I'm 39.
3. are you having an A/EMA? if so, how long has it been going on, what party are you (OW, MW, MM, SM).
I guess, technically, this is an affair. It certainly started out as one. I was (still am, technically) married and he has a live-in g/f. But they have a unique situation where they see others. She has one or two other boyfriends. SO knows them. Has run into them as they're leaving the house. So now that I'm single (almost) I don't know whether to say I'm an OW or not, since his R doesn't have any rules about other people.
4. how long have you been on this board? have you posted or are you lurking? please come out of lurkdom and contribute!
I've been part of this board since the beginning of last April, when I first started entertaining the notion of an affair. I used to post all the time. I lurk more than anything right now, though, because of my hectic work schedule.
5. what do you hope to learn, gain from this board?
I've learned to develop patience (okay, so that's a work in progress, but I *am* learning!!) and a sense of perspective. A wise woman on this board once told me (again, thanks, Sweet!) that she'd learned to love and be happy without expecting the world in return. Again, a work in progress for me, but an important lesson, I think.
6. any personal info you'd like to share -- children, singledom, job, hobbies, anything. be general please and have fun!
I've got 4 kids. STBX has custody due to the nature of my work. I'm lovin' the single life, just wish I didn't have to work so much. SO is a good bit older than me...he's 57 and I'm 39. I think it's a gas, he hates it. Especially when I call him sir, lol!!! I love wheel-thrown pottery, though it's been years since I've indulged that passion. I like outdoor sports...hiking, camping, going to the beach.
I've enjoyed getting to know you folks!
Lucky
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