Monday Roll Call!

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Registered: 01-21-2004
Monday Roll Call!
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Mon, 02-09-2004 - 3:51pm

i want to see who's on the board (as if i didn't already know since i'm here all the time!) and meet and greet newbies, lurkers and old friends.

CL-Gurlfriend50

Co-CL of My Affair Support Board

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Registered: 01-05-2004
Mon, 02-09-2004 - 10:25pm
1. what do we call you and a short synopsis of why we are calling you that.

TOW2002 ( b/c I became "the other woman" in 2002)

2. age please.

im 34

3. are you having an A/EMA? if so, how long has it been going on, what party are you (OW, MW, MM, SM).

IM the MW..1 year....going on 2

4. how long have you been on this board? have you posted or are you lurking? please come out of lurkdom and contribute

I have been on this board for about 1 month...

5. what do you hope to learn, gain from this board?

I cant express enuf how much this board has helped me. I cant thank all of you

enuf for all of ur good advise. I honestly thought I was the only one that was

doing such a bad thing....But it is happening alot....and to people you would never

suspect. Im hoping to learn how to find in my H and marriage what im thinking I

may find in an A.


6. any personal info you'd like to share -- children, singledom, job, hobbies, anything. be general please and have fun!

Married for 14 yrs..2 kids....Sex is the #1 prob in my marriage...

That and only being w/ one man SEXUALLY in my entire life (married young )

fueled my craving to try another.

TOW2002


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Registered: 11-21-2003
Tue, 02-10-2004 - 2:49am
1. what do we call you and a short synopsis of why we are calling you that.

Seeburg is a name my MM picked out for us to use to chat... a name that is not male or female at a glance, it causes us very few questions from either end when we chat

2. age please.

i just turned 36.( I see 40 just around the corner)

3. are you having an A/EMA? if so, how long has it been going on, what party are you (OW, MW, MM, SM).

yes I am having an A with a MM, I am the MW. We have been together almost 5 months

And i have no regrets and would do it all over again with him if given the chance

4. how long have you been on this board? have you posted or are you lurking? please come out of lurkdom and contribute!

I found this board last October, I am getting closer to a 100 posts every day

5. what do you hope to learn, gain from this board?

I want to understand the ups and downs of this type of relationship better, and to be better able to cope with some of the feelings that are new to me. Knowing about the events and trials of others helps, plus knowing that there is support out there if i really need it!

6. any personal info you'd like to share -- children, singledom, job, hobbies, anything. be general please and have fun!

I have been married for 17 years, I got married when I was 18 and fresh out of high school. I have 3 wonderful daughters, 1 is a teenager and the 2nd is rapidly approaching. My H took a job that keeps him away from home alot so last fall I quit my job so I could be fulltime mom/dad.

I am completely spoiled by my MM, the more I read on here the more I see that. We spend at least 4 days a week together, go out for lunch, talk on the phone every night, so I am starting to realize how lucky I am. I am growing more secure in our R every day.

Hope you all are having a great nihgt and a great day tomorrow

SB

 Seeburg    

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Registered: 01-03-2004
Tue, 02-10-2004 - 8:54am
Hi,

I can't seem to get all the questions to copy over, so here is my failing memory's best shot at answering them. LOL

1. You call me Cazrida. My MM is Cazador, (Hunter) and I am his Querida, (Darling). ::smiles::

2. I'm 43.

3. Yes, I'm involved in an EMA. He's been married for twenty five years. I've been divorced for ten.

4. I've been on the board since the Christmas holidays. I don't post a great deal. I came here looking for some people who understood. NC was (and remains) a really tough issue for me. I'm glad I found the board, especially since we went from marriage plans back to "I'm not sure where this is going."

6. (What was 5 again?) I'm an ICU nurse, with three children. Only one is at home. My disabled father also lives with us, as did my mother before she passed away in Jan.

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Registered: 02-04-2004
Thu, 02-12-2004 - 12:21am
Fun thread...thanks for starting this one. It's a neat way to get to "know" a few others here.

1. what do we call you and a short synopsis of why we are calling you that.

Just made it up, spur of the moment...combo of "our" two names I guess. LOL

2. age please.

I'm a young 48.

3. are you having an A/EMA? if so, how long has it been going on, what party are you (OW, MW, MM, SM).

I've been having a cyber affair for about 14 months now...soon to be a physical one as we plan to meet within the next month or so. The A is with a MM (sep from W for a year and a half) and I'm currently M.

4. how long have you been on this board? have you posted or are you lurking? please come out of lurkdom and contribute!

Lurked for a few months and only registered a few weeks ago so I could finally start sharing before I burst at the seams. LOL

5. what do you hope to learn, gain from this board?

I hope to learn that I'm not alone...and maybe glean some good ideas for how to handle some of the feelings and concerns I have about what I'm about to do to my H.

6. any personal info you'd like to share -- children, singledom, job, hobbies, anything. be general please and have fun!

I have a grown daughter and a 7 year old grand daughter, the light of my life! Married 27 years to a very kind man, but someone who's basically a good good friend, but not a good match in areas that are important to me. :(



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Registered: 10-13-2003
Thu, 02-12-2004 - 1:25am

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Registered: 10-28-2003
Thu, 02-12-2004 - 3:43am
1. what do we call you and a short synopsis of why we are calling you that.

Nickname for what MM likes to call me when I am being very sexy... ;-)

2. age please.

30 something.. closer to 40 something

3. are you having an A/EMA? if so, how long has it been going on, what party are you (OW, MW, MM, SM).

I am MW (& not let's forget OW) for a MM over a year now, how time does go by quickly!

4. how long have you been on this board? have you posted or are you lurking? please come out of lurkdom and contribute!

Found this board in June or so of last year.

5. what do you hope to learn, gain from this board?

How to ride this wonderful rollercoaster and not let the wrinkles show it! I am happy to know some of you feel the same way, and have learned to get through this first year with a lot of lurking!!! Some of you are even sharing life, and just not the A/EMA, and this is wonderful too. I am glad I can come here, scream, cry, laugh, just be the part of me, that would so love to come out of hiding..

6. any personal info you'd like to share -- children, singledom, job, hobbies, anything. be general please and have fun!

I have two children, taxi driver for the family most of the time, LOL. But seriously, I am trying to learn to enjoy not being a victim, MM is showing me how, and to learn to love and live again, for me, not for him, DH, kids or any the rest of those in my life... and yet, try to get all of that back on the right track for the present moment. God is it hard to accept such goodness!!!

Hugs, Mitzy



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Registered: 09-20-2003
Mon, 02-16-2004 - 6:31pm
Hello All,

1. You call me Annika because its a name I have always liked since my childhood. And 13 is a lucky number for me (no superstitions here).

2. I'm 30ish (presently somewhere around mid-ish).

3. I am single and involved with a MM.

4. I have been on this board for about 9 months or so. Although, I visit here weekly (and sometimes daily), I don't post often.

5. I hope to continue learning how to handle all the emotions that go along with this rollercoaster ride. So far, this board has been wonderful in that learning experience.

6. I have a cat (no children.....although I treat the cat like its a child....and its amazing how much of the English language that cat really comprehends....or is that just my imagination???). My favorite hobby is reading non-fiction because I love learning about so many different things. If my mind is left to its own devices, it will overthink everything. And I work in a very stressful job, but my career in that field allowed me the opportunity to meet my very best friend over a decade ago, who is now the love of my life.

Gurl, thanks so much for starting this thread and for all your excellent advise to everyone else which has helped me so much when related to my own situations.

Annika

Brightest Blessings, Annika


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Registered: 04-20-2003
Mon, 02-16-2004 - 6:44pm
1. what do we call you and a short synopsis of why we are calling you that.

Cantforgethim is my name, because when I found this board, I was trying to decide whether or not to get back into an A with a MM....and the biggest thing about him was my inability to forget him!!!

2. age please.

29

3. are you having an A/EMA? if so, how long has it been going on, what party are you (OW, MW, MM, SM).

I am the OW in an A with a MM.

4. how long have you been on this board? have you posted or are you lurking? please come out of lurkdom and contribute!

I found this board Easter weekend a year ago. I posted alot last spring, when I was trying to decide what to do. Now, basically I come to read, and post only when I need to vent. Or when I think I can help someone else.

5. what do you hope to learn, gain from this board?

I've learned I'm not alone. Just because I am in an A, I am not a bad person. That maybe some details are different, but there are alot of others in my shoes. Mostly, I like to have a place to go to to talk about it all, when NO ONE else in my world could ever understand.

6. any personal info you'd like to share -- children, singledom, job, hobbies, anything. be general please and have fun!

2 young boys :-) Divorced for 1 year. Stressed out single mom! That's me!

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Registered: 01-07-2004
Mon, 02-16-2004 - 6:48pm
Don't want to go to bed yet... This is so much more fun!

1. what do we call you and a short synopsis of why we are calling you that.

Not any particular reason, it's just a name I like :-)

2. age please.

I'm 29 (and dreading the next number up...)

3. are you having an A/EMA? if so, how long has it been going on, what party are you (OW, MW, MM, SM).

I have been in an A with a MM for more than a year. I'm a MW.

4. how long have you been on this board? have you posted or are you lurking? please come out of lurkdom and contribute!

I have been on this board for a week or so, but was reading posts here since January. Guess I've posted around 10-15 times.

5. what do you hope to learn, gain from this board?

So far I have learned that I'm not alone and that there are so many wonderful people here that are willing to listen, give advice and share their stories. I'm becoming addicted ;-D Feel very at home here with you guys, you save me from going nuts!

6. any personal info you'd like to share -- children, singledom, job, hobbies, anything. be general please and have fun!

Have a young daughter, good family, beautiful friends and many cool co-workers. Love reading, skating and being with friends/family.


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Registered: 02-14-2004
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 12:20am
1. what do we call you and a short synopsis of why we are calling you that.

Well, I've had this name for a little over 3 years on the net...Buckaroos was my Tupperware unit name ages ago from my last name, and I have blue eyes. Both were taken so I combined em.

2. age please.

48...And happy with my age, course I don't look it...

=)

3. are you having an A/EMA? if so, how long has it been going on, what party are you (OW, MW, MM, SM).

I'm trying to figure out which is which...an affair I guess...I'm the "other woman" seeing the "married man"...I'm 48, he's almost 53...I met him on an "adult" dating site...he never lied to me as to his status, nor has he ever said he's considering leaving his wife. I had never planned on getting this far with him, we were just friends for about a month, as he knew my reluctance to getting involved. He came through town (lives north of me, owns his company, and travels throughout Minn and Wisc to check out his plants) and invited me to dinner, once our eyes met, I was a goner. We've seen each other every time he comes through town, and he's popped down here a couple times during the day just to spend a few hours with me. I was really afraid he was going to be found out a couple weeks ago when he came down here to see a Wild game with his son, and stayed with me as oppposed to his son's apartment. For appearances sake, he'll usually check into a hotel room, which doesn't get used. Holidays were tough, besides the fact that he had to be home, he couldn't contact me as much, because his children were home, too. And on top of it, for year end his daughter was working in the office filing for him, and he couldn't call me from there either.


4. how long have you been on this board? have you posted or are you lurking?

An old friend pointed me to this board...2 days ago!!! Oh gee...yes that was Valentines Day...I posted about what to give "MM" as a present...

5. what do you hope to learn, gain from this board?

It's just nice to find I'm not alone in my ups and downs...Right now I'm up because he's going to be here tomorrow night...yippeeeee!!! Valentines was a hard one, he was off in the woods with his wife, their grown kids, and the inlaws, xc-skiing...if he had thought to call me, he couldn't because of the cell coverage...he said they didn't have sex, I pretty much believe him on that, but if it comes down to totally trusting him? No, I don't. If things ever change and the wife is out of the picture and we were to be truly a couple, I don't know if I ever could. Sad, but true.

6. any personal info you'd like to share -- children, singledom, job, hobbies, anything. be general please and have fun!

I'm single, a mommy to a 9 yr old boy 24-7 (his dad cheated on ME...after the hurt, NEVER thought I'd be doing this...I take solace in the fact that his kids are adults, and I've really been giving a lot of thought towards betting SHE is having an affair of her own)...And I went back to school this past fall.

My "MM" and I have a great relationship, we can talk about anything...he's not the most romantic man in the world I have found out after Valentines Day, but I think he'll make it up to me tomorrow night.

I always tell him I want to meet his unmarried clone...because of the times he's been able to be here, he's met my son, who doesn't know that he's married...he bought him a watch for Christmas that my son adores, "MOOOOOOMMMMMMM it lights up just like Brads!!!!" They get along so well, and he's great with my child.

This past weekend, though, I got a reply to my ad from a SINGLE man, who will be in town next week and wants to meet me. If things were to work out with us, my "MM" has always said he'd support anything I decided to do...he'd be jealous as hell, but would be thrilled for me, as I would for him if his wife were to all of a sudden do a 180 and give him the love and caring...yes, and making love...that I do.

Oh my, this got long...

Nice to meet you all, and thanks for the great posts, nice to know I wasn't the only one this past weekend that was feeling like the world caved in.

"Bucky"