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| Sat, 03-13-2004 - 9:51pm |
I've been wondering how many of you get any financial help from your MM, in any form, shopping, vacations, help if needed.... do you feel sometimes it fills the gap of your MM being not fully available? Hmmmm....what if you could barely make both ends meet while he's very well off? Would it bother you at all? Be honest ladies :)

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(Sorry if this might sound a bit like I'm on the wifes side here, but I'd like you to think of a few things here...)
You said what SHE makes a year...you didn't say what HE makes a year...
How long they were married?
How many kids?
You say it's "HIS" savings?
From the gist of your post, it seems they've been married for awhile...
Divorce is tough for all parties, but you have to realize that they built that life together...he didn't do it all by himself...
It doesn't sound like it's an abnormal settlement...
She has custody of the kids, would you expect her to uproot them out of their house so you could live there?
Child support is usually a percentage of his income...25% in Minnesota for one child...33% for more than one...
50% of savings/retirement funds is also pretty basic...
A lot of women can be vindictive, true, but if you were in her shoes, how would you react?
20 years down the road, the 2 of you have built a life together, and he finds a new "you"...what do you then? Let him walk away with all the assets of the marriage?
I guess I'm pretty realistic as to what would happen financially if my MM were to get divorced...
I'd have the "cake" but the "frosting" wouldn't be there...LOL...
He has 2 kids, one who just graduated from college and is on his own now, and a daughter in college...
What worries me more is the respect he'll lose from his children were he to get divorced due to her finding out about me...
Where you and he go after the divorce is up to you...
You have the cake, you'll be adding your own frosting, unfortunately without all the ingredients you envisioned when you got involved with him...
~Laurie~
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