More than one....

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Registered: 06-20-2007
More than one....
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Mon, 03-29-2010 - 9:51pm

I haven't visited this board in a long time...however, I had a question and I think this is probably the only place I can ask...


So....


How many on here are having more than one affair...and how do you do it?


~MG03~
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Registered: 12-18-2008
In reply to: mg03
Tue, 03-30-2010 - 7:01am

I have been in multiple A for quite some time. Right now there are 2, 1 local, the other LD. LD travels for work and is here every couple of months. The other I see 2-3 times a week. It's all about scheduling and being very careful. No more ddays for me. The weeks LD is here can get sticky, sometimes it seems like local AP senses someone else on the radar that week and wants more of me. But that's alot of the excitement, I guess, which is why I am in A's in the first place. I had a 3rd local going for almost a year but he got more and more clingy and I had to end it. Not going down that road again. 2 is enough.

Just my .02

-jana

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Registered: 06-20-2007
In reply to: mg03
Tue, 03-30-2010 - 8:54am
Thanks for your response...I take it that you are married as well...my story is that I'm married, been having an A with a good friend of ours and now another good friend is showing me all kinds of attention...I know he's been after me for a long time and I have also been attracted to him but never thought he would want to cross the line...however, the problem is that we are all in the same close nit circle of friends and don't want AP#1 and potential AP#2 find out about each other or my H finding out...right now AP#1 can only can hook up ever couple of months and the same would be for #2...I guess I just want it all....
~MG03~
~MG03~
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Registered: 03-29-2010
In reply to: mg03
Tue, 03-30-2010 - 9:14am

Yeah, I'd say - all in the same circle of friends - BIG trouble.

Proud to be a





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Registered: 12-18-2008
In reply to: mg03
Tue, 03-30-2010 - 2:18pm

Yes I'm M. Ironically my now-H was an AP. At the time I was in 2 A's like I am now. The other AP's W caught us in the worst way you can think of. He dumped he flat, trash mouthed me all over the place making me out to be the wh*%e of creation. My H at the time threw me out. I moved here to be with AP and after his divorce we ended up M. It's all good except for his daughter who is a little b#t#h to me bec she says I broke up their marriage. Hmm, sorry honey, your dad had a hand in that too, lol. More than a hand actually.

I know it looks like I haven't learned from past experience with A's and having more than one, etc., but I have learned - I am much more careful in every way. My AP only get so close and only know so much. And I keep my heart out of it. I know some girls on here get their emotions into the mix (hard to keep that from happening) but I've BTDT - I am NOT in the market for another H, neither of the AP are someone I would ever want to really be with. It's all about the fun and excitement.

-jana

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Registered: 06-20-2007
In reply to: mg03
Tue, 03-30-2010 - 5:17pm

My current H is from the A I had from my first marriage...lol...I was in an A about 7 years ago and AP W found out and I got busted..H and I decided to stay together however I have not learned my lesson either...I am much more carefull this time around as well...I just didn't know if I could handle to at one time and was just curious if others did...thanks for your repsonse to my question...not sure what I'm going to do..I really want to be with AP#1 but don't ever see that happen...I think he's just too comfortable where he is...lol..but I don't get to see him as often as I like and AP#2 would be more accessible...but with them both being friends and friends of ours I don't know if i can do this without the other finding out...hmmmm...I have a lot of thinking to do...but then again...I think I may just at least give him a whirl and see how it is first...and if it's not any good then that would be it...lol...you're right...it's all about the fun and excitement right...lol


Thanks again...

~MG03~
~MG03~