Like a movie (Is anyone here a LAWYER?)

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Like a movie (Is anyone here a LAWYER?)
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Sat, 02-21-2009 - 2:09am

Hi everyone.

~vanillabeanie
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Sun, 02-22-2009 - 2:46pm

<<<>>>>

You see here's where you need a reality check - and what I am about to say IS "support" even though I know you won't take it that way.

Things are NOT "going your way."

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Sun, 02-22-2009 - 2:54pm

>>But if it makes you happy believing all the BS he's feeding you, then . . . <<


Ba da bing.

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Sun, 02-22-2009 - 3:08pm

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The "deceased" mother appoints her son-in-law as executor as opposed to her own daughters? Hmmm, if I were an attorney, I wouldn't advise a client to appoint an inlaw.

In any case, if "all he REALLY wants to do is run," then just tell him to pass on it. He is under absolutely NO legal obligation to act as an executor. If he's already started to act as an executor, then he can formally back out in writing.




Edited 2/22/2009 3:44 pm ET by longisland2004
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Sun, 02-22-2009 - 3:40pm

Hey Long Island, I was just asking about probate, not child custody stuff.

~vanillabeanie
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Sun, 02-22-2009 - 3:53pm

"***Is anyone here a lawyer or know someone who you can ask how long this executor roll might last? I don't think the woman had much...probably a house and just the typical assets, she's no millionaire.***"

Well, I'm no lawyer, but....my sister and I were co-executors of our parent's will.
Dad went first. Some paperwork but not a huge amount. When Mom died it was a lot more.
She had property, finances...all in all it took about a year. We had to probate it (but since it's been five years, I don't even remember why!!). So....it's not going to happen in days or even months as someone pointed out. Oh, and it's just me and my sister; we're best friends, no fighting or issues. Since your MM's wife doesn't get along with her own sister...there could be hold ups.

And like everyone else said, you really need to step back.

Good luck.

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Sun, 02-22-2009 - 3:54pm

Hey Vanilla,

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Sun, 02-22-2009 - 3:58pm

Every state offers some form of no-fault divorce - even NY.

In New York (where I live obviously) and the only state in the country that is not a "no-fault" state - you just have to formally separate for a year and it converts to a divorce. In other words, it essentially becomes a no-fault divorce after a year.




Edited 2/22/2009 4:02 pm ET by longisland2004
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Sun, 02-22-2009 - 4:00pm

WRONG. You better do some more reading and research.

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Sun, 02-22-2009 - 4:04pm

I certainly don't want to argue legal matters because I am far from a legal expert!

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Sun, 02-22-2009 - 4:08pm

Using adultery as a GROUND for divorce has nothing to do with *custody.*