MW are a hot commodity for SM
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MW are a hot commodity for SM
| Tue, 07-20-2010 - 3:43pm |
What are your thoughts and experiences about a SM and MM in an A?
Dating a MM seems ideal for a SM who doesn't want the commitment and whole package and expectations that comes with a SW.
I have a DH, and thought my A would

Yes I think some single guys think dating a MW would be ideal. If they don't want to commit, and they want someone who seems to be hot for them all the time, it might be what they think they want. However, this isn't a single sex opportunity. I've read articles about very busy, professional women dating MM for the same reason. They don't WANT a full time R, don't want to have to deal with his eccentricities or his dirty socks, don't want to have the responsibilities of a marriage or possible children down the line.
All relationships are different, all people are different, and while the situation might work for some, for others it is not what they expect and turns into something that definitely doesn't work anymore, if it ever did.
I think a lot of single men might have a more positive fantasy of what an A with a MW would be like. The reality ends up much different. If they start wanting their MW to be available for public things - even a simple dinner out - and that can't happen, I think they start to see the true scope of the R - and it can end up being too limiting.
But if your AP is pulling back if it seems like you actually might become available, maybe what you have now IS just what he wants. It doesn't mean all MW/SM A's are like that. Or maybe your SG is just getting a little worried about the pressure on your R if he thinks you're leaving for HIM. If you assure him that you're leaving for YOU, because you're unhappy, and you're better off even if you were to end up alone - that would relieve the pressure.
Anyway this is a good topic. Do some single people seek out married people for commitment free relationships?
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"...... He gets the best of me and DH gets the rest.
The SM doesn't have to commit emotionally or financially because the DH is obligated to do that... "
From your previous posts It seems you & SM have a good arrangement at present . But be extra-cautious . While your SM gets the best of you , You need to make sure that you are able to string your DH along & he fulfills all his obligations , until you are ready to dump him for SM .