Like i said earlier,i am not waiting as she is not leaving and i am fine with that.I dont post on this much but here is a shoert story for you.she has 3 children ,grown now but 2 with special needs.when we started ,they were vewry young and her H was more successful than me and could provide them better.we both made choices and decisions. i am 2 years older than her. if you and your aP are waiting then do take a second thought as it may never end,that is,the wait.i said in another post,if he is making you guilty for waiting on you then it wont last,that is,the A and will end on bitter terms.he will accuse you of waiting on you but you doing nothing about it.if you are not leaving,let him know so he decides what he wants. i lost some friends during this but have i no regrets.my family had no choice but to accept,lol.
You said "people have long distance relationsps and dont see or talk to each other all the time.i equate my A to that" ....I love this. I will tell this to my OM.
We have talked a great deal again about my insecurities and he is trying to alleviate my fears. I have to deal with my demon, the green eyed monster, and learn to take his word for what he is doing and trust in his love for me. Its so strange how i didnt feel all this mess of emotions while he was married, but once the D happened, I have fallen apart in insecurities.
That is a awesome observation. I for one never really looked at it that way because I kinda always new my hubby would always win out. Yet that is a good question.
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Hello,
I just wanted to tell you that I am touched by your devotion to your love.
i am 2 years older than her.
if you and your aP are waiting then do take a second thought as it may never end,that is,the wait.i said in another post,if he is making you guilty for waiting on you then it wont last,that is,the A and will end on bitter terms.he will accuse you of waiting on you but you doing nothing about it.if you are not leaving,let him know so he decides what he wants.
i lost some friends during this but have i no regrets.my family had no choice but to accept,lol.
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You said "people have long distance relationsps and dont see or talk to each other all the time.i equate my A to that" ....I love this. I will tell this to my OM.
We have talked a great deal again about my insecurities and he is trying to alleviate my fears. I have to deal with my demon, the green eyed monster, and learn to take his word for what he is doing and trust in his love for me. Its so strange how i didnt feel all this mess of emotions while he was married, but once the D happened, I have fallen apart in insecurities.
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Are you happy? Sad? Mad?
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Hi everyone,
Just want to share, don't really have any advice other than maybe a warning of possible heartbreak to come and be on your toes!
For those that haven't read my thread, I am a MW involved with a SM for 3 years.
Scottish,
Thanks for the advice. It's very much appreciated : )
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