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MW with S men
| Mon, 12-07-2009 - 12:03am |
Is there anyone on here that is married and the AP is a single man? I really need some advice and insight on that side of it. I am M and have been with my single AP for almost 3 years. I have a hard time dealing with things sometimes, as do we all. How do you deal with them dating others? I have let him know about my love for him and he was a little taken aback but is still seeing me. How is it going for others?

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"We both developed feelings and kept them hidden for a long while." lol ! not making fun but laughing at how being naive sometimes leads to situations you least expect yourself to be in and the person you last imagine to be with.
all i have learnt from experience is that you cant hide love for long.love needs to flow and it will flow ,the more you fight not to,more gushing it comes to the point of becoming uncontrollable.
Having an A with a SM can be tricky.they usually will give up if they are waiting on you to leave your M or they find someone 'fulltime' or rarely enough ,are happy with the situation and are in it for the long haul( i fit in the last option).it all really depends upon the guy as to what he is looking for and where his search ends.its not only guys but women also.we all come to a point in life when feel that search has ended and thats it.but to make it worse,sometimes it ends with a M person.we all have choices as its our lives.no one else can live my life or i theres.
to not be able to trust a SM is genuine fear but if he is , he will do everything in his power to gain that.he will make sacrifices not to make you feel guilty but because he wants things that way for him and you.
i have rambled a lot and i guess out of the topic of this post.please skip if anything was out of context as i seldom re-read my posts,lol!
Fullhalf,
Mine started out as FWB too, of course, and that is what it was. We hung out for a bit and always had amazing sex. We saw each other only once every month or 2 months. It sucked! That went on for a very long time, until one day, after not seeing each other for 2 months, it changed. It was that obvious. We got together several times a week for that month and now it's every week. We hang out, laugh, watch Tv and it doesn't always end in sex. I hear from him and see him more now and when we're together, I know that he hates to see me go. He makes time for me now and is concerned for my well-being. He hasn't told me he has feelings but I KNOW. I am happy now. We have been together for 3 years, soon. I am kind of afraid that we will share feelings(He knows I love him, I told him a long time ago) and that he will end it because I am M. I am almost panicking. I would leave my H for him simply because I am not happy with my H anymore and he knows this. Help me. I am happy but worried. What do I do?
Full,
I really appreciate your input. You sound so much like my SM. I believe he is in this with me for the long haul as well. That's what he keeps telling me. He tells me he has made his choice to be in this relationship with me, with no expectation of my leaving my M.
You said "to not be able to trust a SM is genuine fear but if he is , he will do everything in his power to gain that.he will make sacrifices not to make you feel guilty but because he wants things that way for him and you."
"Having an A with a SM can be tricky.they usually will give up if they are waiting on you to leave your M or they find someone 'fulltime'..... THIS A TRUE STATEMENT, ladies. the same thing goes for the single woman involved with a mm. She will usually give up, if after waiting on the mm to leave his wife, it takes a long time and she gets frustrated. i as a former single ow,got tired and frustrated on waiting on him to leave. he finally did after 6 years. but took a long time to file for divorce because of money in the first instance and other issues. it was then i decided to leave him as i had given him a total of 10 years of my life, 6 while he was a married man and 4 years as a separated man and he still had not started to file because of immigration papers that had to be taken care of first. of course during this time if i had found someone full time who was satisfying to me in every way, i would have left mm out of frustration.
"it all really depends upon the guy as to what he is looking for and where his search ends.its not only guys but women also.we all come to a point in life when feel that search has ended and thats it.but to make it worse,sometimes it ends with a M person."
true. if the search end with a married person, then that's it. but how many people will want to spend the rest of their life with someone who is married?( a part-time relationship) that is the million dollar question.
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