MW with SG

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Registered: 07-24-2003
MW with SG
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Fri, 12-19-2003 - 4:39pm
I am having an A with a SG who also happens to be my husband's best friend. Trust me I still do not know how this has happened. I have known him and been friends with him for about 12 years and this has been going on for 7 months. I don't want this to end, I am starting to have pretty strong feelings for him but also know that our relationship can never be anything but a secret. I have pretty much come to terms with that aspect and am willing to deal with that in order to spend the time together that we do. My question is that since we have been friends for so long we have always talked about girls he dates etc... It has never been an issue. Yesterday, while lying together he was telling me about a women that he thinks is interested in him.. He said he felt wierd talking to me about other women but he felt he had an "out". I said that it was fine, and we had an unusual situation. In truth, it is not fine. I need to learn how to deal with this though, I see him a lot in social situations in which I can not reveal a thing about how I feel or what is going end. When this A does end I want to be friends with him and basically would have to see him quite often. My question is how do I deal with these feelings of jealousy? Knowing that I could never have a public relationship with him and these women can. I appreciate any advice anyone can give me.
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Registered: 11-13-2003
In reply to: kew29
Fri, 12-19-2003 - 10:21pm
Welcome. You have come to the right place for support. As the weekend and the holidays approach, many are out of town, so be patient in receiving advice. I cannot relate to the jealously. I am M and having an A with a MM. I am not jealous of his W and he is not jealous of my H, simply because we have no intentions of leaving our spouses. We just enjoy our relationship together. If your intentions are the same as his, you will have to accept that his W or girlfriend will come first and you will be his second priority. Good luck in your relationship.