my frustration and vent for the day

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Registered: 10-03-2008
my frustration and vent for the day
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Mon, 03-02-2009 - 8:15am
my xap is bipolar i swear one day he's all sweet and sappy and the next he's way direct..and i swear i will not text him or call him again til he takes his medicine....(that was a jokey joke)...nah seriously...i text him sat, that i was just reaching out to let him know i was thinking about him and to say hey..and he text me back a very generic, "cool" (should be glad he text me back right) nah, i was pissed off it was so generic...well sunday he text me, mirroring what i text him saturday...i think he was being smart because i hadn't text him all day or called..well why should i, i really didn't have anything to say to him after his generic cool....so when he text me mirroring what i said, i was being nice and said, "hey, how are you handsome?" he text me, he was good...how was i..i told him a couple of things that went on..that i was p'od about..he text back "sorry to hear that", so i text him...a "wow, sorry to hear that?, well cutie, i'll talk with you later" being non chalant...he text me "THAT'S THE SECOND TIME YOU DID THAT TO ME, WHY DON'T I JUST TALK TO YOU LATER", mad, first of all i'm thinking...well i already done said that.cause you're pissing me off..and whateva..right...so i cannot figure out why he's been generic and trying to act removed since we had a great time friday, unless he's feeling guilty...the only thing i can think of is that there's something going on in his brain...he stayed from noon til about 5 on friday and he knew i was going out with me cuz to the lounge/bar/club...and he's still doing his crap with making reference to me and other guys...well we're not together..me and him..like that anymore...and there really is noone..but yes i do go out and have fun and yes i'm gonna meet people...his references are always in jest, but everytime we talk or text he does it..and it's a pain in the arse....i mean really...he already done told me he thinks i should date other people it took me darned near two months to get over that and try to be his buddy, now we're talking and seeing each other, not as often but, still at least once a week and talking at least once a day with text messaging in between, he's making jokes and talking in jest about me being with other guys..i'm like wtf?...friday i told him to give me some money so i could get drinks when i go out with my cousin...he was like "i'm not giving you money so you can take it and buy some broke azzed (vernacular name for thugs or homeboys) drinks with my money" i'm like what's that about? okay anyway...he's cornfusing yeah i said cornfusing, me...like he told me what he wanted me to do, uhhm now i'm removing my emotions, playing it cool, not buggin him and buggin out on how i feel about him and now he's acting like what i'm doing is oh so bad...ugh and sigh and scream in a pillow..he tries to play mr cool guy and like he's so direct and nothing bothers him, but a lot of stuff shows in what he says to me at times and how he acts...watch his azz come in here at work and linger around my office..i'm going to be laughing at him..he did it last thursday, lingering around me and grinning

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

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Mon, 03-02-2009 - 11:05am
Maybe he was p*ssed off that you told him to give you some money to buy drinks with while you're out. You don't say in your post whether you were just joking or not, so I'm basing this response on that you weren't. Maybe it really irritated him, like he's some human ATM machine, even if he's given you $ before. But if that was just a joke, then forget all the above and who knows what his deal is. Obviously some jealousy. But you know, my xAP used to get jealous all the time, but it didn't mean anything, really. It didn't motivate him to leave his wife, which, by the way, I was glad because I really didn't want that. For me, anyway. For him, yes, but not for me.
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Mon, 03-02-2009 - 11:16am

i don't know what his deal is...nah..he knows he's not a human atm...he gives freely i never ask..that's the first time in like 9 months..and i was really joking..he knew it but he

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss