My H is on to me........HELP

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Registered: 05-21-2003
My H is on to me........HELP
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Wed, 11-19-2003 - 11:57am
I asked for a divorce a couple months ago. We are still together though. I can't seem to grasp leaving my "family". I told H that I had fallen out of love with him. That is TRUE. My A didn't start till after my marriage was in deep trouble. Now he keeps asking me if I'm having an affair. He just called now and asked me again. I wanted to say yes so he would leave me alone. But I have 2 kids that I don't want to hurt. I also don't want to hurt H anymore.

What do I do now? MM and me are suposed to meet tonight. Do you think it is to risky?

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Registered: 10-06-2003
Wed, 11-19-2003 - 3:11pm
Jupiter12

I'm sure my M was over years ago. I'm sure I dont love H, I'm sure that staying just for the kids in just a cop out!! I'm sure I want a life with MM.

I see that sometimes with my H, I'll come home happy and in my own world, and when he says what are you all happy about, it snaps me back to reality. I cant remember the last time H and I had a nice time together, heck I cant remember the last time H had time for me. I gave up on getting H to take time for us.

Thanks for you input.

dayz
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Registered: 11-18-2003
Wed, 11-19-2003 - 6:45pm
Sounds like you already have made your decision. I know it is scary. I am feeling the same way about my husband. If my ema ended I couldn't go back to just having sex with H. I'd either leave or find someone else. I don't want to leave my kids or take the kids away from him either. It is all very confusing.
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Registered: 08-31-2003
Wed, 11-19-2003 - 8:26pm
Speaking from experience, whatever you do don't ever ever fess up... it can come back to haunt you later.

Plus this is an unwritten rule when having an A, never tell.

good luck, i sincerely hope everything works out for you.

your cyber pal

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