My heart is breaking

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Registered: 06-07-2003
My heart is breaking
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Wed, 09-03-2003 - 12:20pm
I got an email from OM today. He told me that if I don't act soon that I would lose him forever and that I'll regret it. I haven't emailed him in almost 2 weeks because I'm so afraid of what will happen. He's come for me once and I backed out I think he wants to come for me again.

I'm trying to move on but I just can't. I sit with my H and all my thoughts are of OM. My heart isn't in the M but it's heart breaking to tell H that and it's heart breaking to be apart from OM.
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Registered: 09-03-2003
Wed, 09-03-2003 - 12:31pm
Can you just e-mail him, tell him you need a little time? He could just be frustrated that you aren't responding to him. Ultimatums usually come from desperation. If he really loves you, he'll give you the time you need.
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Registered: 05-13-2003
Wed, 09-03-2003 - 4:05pm
I don't know your whole story, but I can relate to your feelings. Wouldn't it be nice if we could always just have the best of both worlds?? I haven't even started the A that I've been contemplating but even if I never do, I know I don't want to be married to my H. Every time I think about telling him how I feel, it kills me. Not because I'm not sure about wanting to be with him, but because I know he loves me with his whole heart and it will kill him to hear that I don't feel the same. But it's not fair to them and especially it's not fair to you to keep delaying this. Any path that you choose at this point involves hurt and tears so it's best just to make a choice. You only have this one shot at life so go with your heart and although the pain will definately come, in the long run, you will hopefully have no regrets about what you've done. But it is best to get it over and done with because the longer you wait, the more your heart will break and the more hurt will be spread around to the others involved in this.

I hope that you can find the understanding to make the decision that you believe is right. And of course you can always take comfort knowing that you are not alone in your fears and hesitations.

hugs and good luck!!

NSW