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my heart is broken
| Wed, 09-30-2009 - 3:42pm |
Ok, Ladies, I need some help, and support, I am going out of my mind. Here is the sort story. I am married, 15 years, a few months ago I met a man, divorced, and we immediately hit it off, friendship quickly turned into

Cmty,
I am soo sorry! I can only imagine how much pain you are feeling because I know how I would feel! I can only say that if he has pulled back he must be wanting some space. The only thing you can do is provide that space to him. There is another board the ending affair support board. You can get some help and hugs from those folks who are dealing with similar issues. I wish I had better news or something else to offer. Keep us informed if you hear from him again...
M
cmty,
I so understand your pain and confusion. I've been in my A for just over two years now, and while things are pretty great at the moment...I remember very clearly the times in the early stages of our R, that he did the exact same thing to me. I eventually stopped texting, asking (no, practically begging) to know why he disappeared, and what did I did wrong. Sometimes I knew why he was doing it, but sometimes I did not.
I eventually gave up on trying to get an answer, and left him completely alone. He eventually got over whatever it was, and contacted me again. While I don't think it's very nice behavior, I think it's kind of normal...I think in the beginning, most of them have a hard time with some sort of sense of guilt. That's sort of a general kind of thing I suppose, except that your AP is divorced...so really don't know what could be going on in his head. Whatever it is, it's his problem...not yours.
So, take deep breaths ~ keep yourself terribly busy...go on with your life. I'm pretty sure he'll get back in touch with you, and it will be up to you to decide if you can have a discussion with him about how disrespectful it feels to be treated in such a way, because it's just not nice.
Hang in there cmty, read lots of posts here...hold your head up, I'm sure he'll contact you sooner or later.
benska