My heart is changing

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My heart is changing
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Thu, 07-29-2010 - 1:04am

I've been doing a lot of thinking, and suddenly my heart is changing.

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Thu, 07-29-2010 - 6:48am
I'm happy for you jane! You must be having a lot of self realizations, at least, that's what it sounds like. Good luck on your continued "inner journey". :-)

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Thu, 07-29-2010 - 8:45am

Hi Jane,


I'm so happy for you and I hope that your feelings & desires find there way back to H and not on AP anymore. You are not fighting this feeling and just letting it run its course.


I wish you all the best & may your future always be bright, happy & beautiful.

 


Much peace & Love,


Rayne


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Thu, 07-29-2010 - 11:35am
You know Jane-I could have written a very similar post. I am also feeling less obsessive about MM and not really caring if lunch ever happens. I think I already have all of the answers I need, I mean if he was interested he would be pursuing me since he knows how I feel and for whatever reason, even though he claims to feel the same way, this hasn't moved forward. If anything we have spent more time together and become better friends, but I wanted more than that and for whatever reason he is not able to move forward. I also have found myself thinking more of H and how this could have really hurt him or if he knew about the EA and the time MM and I are spending together already, it would really hurt him. I feel bad about that.So,I am just go to leave it alone and if anything comes of it, see where I am at. Good luck!
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Fri, 07-30-2010 - 1:16am

Thanks, ladies for the encouraging words!

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Fri, 07-30-2010 - 2:00am

how long have u been involved? maybe u r realizing that maintaining an affair is also a lot of work. maybe u r realizing that marriage is more than just hot sex, and randy moments. maybe u r disappointed in AP b/c he isn't meeting your expectations (whatever they may be)?


whatever epiphany u r experiencing, remember the value of it. and remember, who ever touches us, teaches us.


good luck my dear & stay strong.

when one does not love too much, one does not love enough --blaise pascal
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Fri, 07-30-2010 - 12:00pm

Hi, Marie!


We've been EA for 8 months and PA for about 4 months.

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Sat, 07-31-2010 - 2:16am
can i ask how did u get to the EA part and then how did it go to the PA part? i think if you (or we) can find some satisfaction with a temporary distraction, it might be helpful in the long run for the "marriage" and children involved. i do know i do not have the energy or emotional strength to go thru a separation/divorce and i think "falling in love" is also a lot work! i'm already "in love" with the H, and that isn't working out too well right? LOL. good luck to u. i hope you are able to find a balance with what you can tolerate. i don't expect to fall in love with any one that i am spending time with outside of my marriage, i just know that i need something intense that
when one does not love too much, one does not love enough --blaise pascal
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Sat, 07-31-2010 - 4:08pm

understanding what i can tolerate in this type of situation has been a huge learning curve for me


Exactly!