My husband is completely INSANE!
Find a Conversation
| Wed, 01-13-2010 - 10:47pm |
Hi. I have posted one time before but this has been bothering me for quite some time. Okay...I have been married for almost three years to a truck driver who opened the marriage about a year ago. Since then I feel like when he gets off the road we are "Room mates" I knew the day I got married I shouldn't of done it but I did anyways because he is stable in his job. I work full time and run my own business so money is not a problem at this point. We don't have any kids together or any property cause I paid my house off 7 years ago.
He opened the marriage cause he knew I wasn't happy in the marriage and I am still not happy! I am only happy when I am with A partner. We worked together along time ago and since then we have been talking about our future. We get along very well. He is this very fun, spontaneous kind of guy and the sex is fantastic! My husband and I don't have that (we never had that) I feel like a FWB with my husband and I feel that it is my duty to have sex with my husband cause he is alone all week...but there isn't any feelings there! No love, no nothing! So, my question for you ladies or gents is....Why did my husband open the marriage? I know for a fact he isn't cheating on me! He says he doesn't have the time nor the energy to do that. Then to top things off, he told me the other day that I was a "prize" when we got married cause my A partner asked me to marry him along time ago!
I want to get a divorce but not to sure on how about approaching it. We fight all the time...we throw blame at each other! And he said "Why do I need a new house? I am a truck driver I live in a truck! I don't need a house payment?" How would that make you feel if your husband said that to you? I was just sitting her wondering and I need some advice before I go insane!
Thanks!

Wandering,
If you have no children together, no love, no financial ties....why in the hell are you sticking around?
Are you both afraid to be alone? Even though, basically, that's what you both are anyhow?
I don't understand why you would stay if you have nothing tieing you to your H.
Hi Gal and thanks for your reply. I don't know why I stick around...I really don't! I am not afraid of being alone but he is...and I have no guilt of sleeping with A partner either cause it feels so right! When were together, it feels so right! When I am with H it's like I have to be here when I don't want to be here! I know what I want to do...I am just waiting for A partner to file the papers for his D that should happen at the end of this month!
I just feel like I am single again married to a TD! I haven't wore my ring for over a month, and he lost his ring in the snow! He hasn't been with alot of woman and he says he loves me, but I don't think he knows what the word means to tell you the truth! He has a funny way of showing it if he does! My A partner told me he would give me the world and anything that I wanted! He bought me a beautiful necklace for Christmas when my husband didn't do nothing!
Thanks for your reply!
I know what I have to do! It's all about waiting now!
I know for a fact he isn't cheating on me! He says he doesn't have the time nor the energy to do that.
I wouldn't be so sure about your H cheating on you. I don't know any man who would give his W the go ahead to sleep with another man. It sounds like he has something going on while he is "on the road." I think you are being too naive about your DH. Everyone knows that truck drivers usually have women on the road.
I don't see why you are staying M.
did it ever occur to you that your H loves you so much that he is giving you what you want since he is not there to give it to you. he may know about your A and the pleasure it gives you. men are not insensitive to not know when a W is unhappy or just has sex out of duty. He may understand your needs and just wants to keep you happy dumb jerk that he is. sorry.. uncalled for
Ha! Your funny! It's okay...he has been called worse trust me! We talked today and he told me that he hasn't been happy in a really really long time! He said like 8 months! He said that he is trying to find himself and trying to make himself feel better about himself! He is a very heavy set guy (412 lbs) and getting the lap band done in two months! But, honestly, it just isn't there anymore! He said that he feels single all the time and that's how he wants it! He said that he is better off by himself. He is not a very personable person (I am) and we clash all the time!
He is not a very affectionate person either! It just doesn't feel right anymore! He says the same thing! Maybe he just needs to get his life together! I can only help him so much since he is never here! He even said "I know you don't love me anymore" And to tell you the truth, I don't think I loved him when I married him! My wedding was really bad...nothing went right from the get go! So that might be a sign to!
I thank you for all your advise! I really appreciate it!