my nightmare is coming true

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Registered: 03-25-2010
my nightmare is coming true
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Thu, 03-25-2010 - 11:30am
I used to be on this board a few years ago and got a lot of support for my situation.
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Registered: 01-20-2010
Thu, 03-25-2010 - 11:49am

miss50,

MM here.

I am so very sorry to hear this. I am sending you prayers of support to help you through this time. I know how difficult and painful this time can be; I went though this a few years ago with my AP. I get it.

I remember the day that she called me to tell me that she had been diagnosed with cancer. It was the worst day of my life (my DDay being the second). Every ounce and fiber of my being wanted to run to her, grab her up in my arms and carry her through it. Obviously, that was impossible. We were able to meet before her surgery, so that we could remind each other of our love, which helped.

During this time, I had to put aside any feelings I had about our relationship and just support her in any way that I could. This included a LOT of e-mail, the occasional phone call and sending her a package or two. It was a very difficult time, but clearly, nothing mattered more than making sure she was going to be healthy.

She is currently healthy and remains cancer free. She has a child, so having cancer really shook her to her foundation. I am certain that this has changed the nature of our A, but I will save that for now (I will share it if you'd like to hear).

Do you best to remind him of your feelings and make his health your number one priority. I know that you would rather be by his side and go through it with him. Trust that he will know that, even if you are not physically, and that he will feel your presence.

All my best,

MPV

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Registered: 10-17-2007
Thu, 03-25-2010 - 11:53am

I'm so sorry. You must be going crazy I know I would be. Hang in there. How long will you be out of contact? My mind is racing for you.... Best you can do is stay busy busy busy busy. It''l be OK.

11 yrs...wow.

chech

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Registered: 03-08-2010
Thu, 03-25-2010 - 12:57pm

Wow, miss50, I am so, so sorry.

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Registered: 03-25-2010
Thu, 03-25-2010 - 2:40pm
Thanks for the good thoughts, I knew I could count on ya'll.
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Registered: 03-30-2010
Tue, 03-30-2010 - 3:53pm

 


Much peace & Love,


Rayne


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Registered: 03-29-2010
Tue, 03-30-2010 - 5:24pm

I'm so sorry about this!

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Registered: 03-25-2010
Thu, 04-01-2010 - 11:03am

Update: surgery went well, his prognosis is good, he called the evening of his surgery just to let me know he made it, called the next day and I went to see him yesterday for a few minutes.

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Registered: 10-05-2009
Thu, 04-01-2010 - 5:14pm

if it's not too intrusive, what kind of "cancer surgery" did he have?


Glad you were able to spend a few minutes with him.

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Registered: 07-24-2009
Thu, 04-01-2010 - 5:26pm
Glad to hear that he received a positive report.
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Registered: 03-25-2010
Wed, 04-07-2010 - 8:03am
His cancer was spleen/kidney.