my period

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-30-2009
my period
10
Thu, 08-12-2010 - 8:00pm

so very excited! AP and i finally have a day together! an entire day. this almost never happens. we are both taking the day from work and we will get a room....so we've had some planning to do. we can't really back out of the day. BUT i have started my period! there is no way to contact him before he heads out tomorrow. he will call me as he is leaving. i don't know what to do! we were both looking forward to this time and...GRRRR! my H would have no problem having sex while i'm on my period, but AP and i have never discussed it. i don't know whether to tell him on the phone or wait until i get there, since we've got the day anyway. i'm thinking i'll go ahead and tell him when he calls...he may not really care either way. has anyone dealt with this before?

hischocolate

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-11-2010
In reply to: hischocolate
Thu, 08-12-2010 - 8:16pm

OMG welcome to my A! I had a hysterectomy 2 weeks ago because of my bizarre periods over the last few years. I tried different pills, and even an ablation- but my periods were unstoppable. I was always having to text AP and say- OMG I have my period - thinking our time would be ruined.


But he never cared. While H wont go near me when its that time- AP had no real problem. I mean we never did anything on the worst days, but lighter days were ok. Plus somedays we just didnt have sex. Even if thats the thing we were looking forward to the most. It was about just being together.


Give him a go- tell him. If he's ok with it- then is into more than just the sex.


Good luck :)

You are what you consistently do
You are what you consistently do
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-30-2009
In reply to: hischocolate
Thu, 08-12-2010 - 10:40pm
thanks for your input, stronger....i just never expected this! early, like i said. and while we see each other every day, we so very seldom get this opportunity...i was so looking forward to making the most of it! and the tension building up to our time together has been incredible. so this part of it is a bit disappointing...we have lots of talk time, but an entire day to explore like this has not happen very often. we're still feeling each other out sexually, ya know? learning things about each other...this has been on-going for over 2 yrs and we been in a room alone 4 times...2 of those was only for about an hour...other times we're like 2 teenagers in a car (and we are far from teens!) this had been planned and put off twice already...we'll probably be laughing about it eventually...he's not gonna believe it when he hears it! lol
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-03-2010
In reply to: hischocolate
Thu, 08-12-2010 - 11:55pm
Eh, tell him: either he'll be cool about sex regardless, or you'll just spend the day together being intimate in other ways :).

anotherseyes

anotherseyes

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-04-2009
In reply to: hischocolate
Fri, 08-13-2010 - 1:25pm
There's so many different ways this could turn out.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-30-2009
In reply to: hischocolate
Fri, 08-13-2010 - 5:10pm

to update...he called when he said he would and i told him what was going. we (and it was a joint decision) decided NOT to go to the room as planned and just meet in a secluded spot. it would have been a bit more of a drive to continue the initial plan and it was best to save that for another time. he is definitely one of those guys who does not prefer period sex! that's him and that's ok...BUT he was determined to take care of me anyway...and he did that several times. i use those softcups anyway, so it's not messy (don't know if anyone has tried those)...but we had our fun (which is what that is) and spent some quality time talking and just being together. i just hated to be the one to change things even though i couldn't help it. and my period came so early...it was wayyyyy late last month...i'm praying for menopause! it's a monthly waste of my time! lol anyway...he was awesome...he didn't feel like he wasted his day off and we had a great time. it's just good to be somewhere that you're not concerned about everyone watching what you're doing. we see each other daily at work, but have to behave. i'm still disappointed cause he had some really good plans for me...but i'm patient...it will wait until next time...

thanks for the support!
hischocolate

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-15-2008
In reply to: hischocolate
Fri, 08-13-2010 - 5:17pm

Im late on here but YAY for the time spent!

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-20-2007
In reply to: hischocolate
Sun, 08-15-2010 - 3:31pm

My AP and I see each other a lot but in the company of others so when we do get a date to get together, nothing stops us.

~MG03~
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-13-2007
In reply to: hischocolate
Fri, 08-20-2010 - 4:05pm
What are these cups you are talking about?
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-20-2007
In reply to: hischocolate
Wed, 08-25-2010 - 9:14pm
They are called Instead..I read about them on this board a few years ago...they are a soft cup that can be inserted very easily...my partner never knew when I did have my period and I've never experienced any leakage either...I found them at Rite-Aid...worth picking up a boz just in case..when I have an oppurtunity to see AP I don't pass up the chance since we don't get a lot of opportunities together...
~MG03~
~MG03~
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-30-2009
In reply to: hischocolate
Fri, 08-27-2010 - 9:17pm

yes, Instead...that's what they are. as much as one can "love" something like that, i do...lol. and i don't think AP would've known it was even there...except he had more planned...couldn't have let him go "there"! and now i know he doesn't prefer getting so close that time of the month, i'm good with that. everyone is different. but he was glad that i was using those and they're not messy. entire days for us are just so few...they have to be carefully planned...and that was a little bit of a downer...

hischocolate