My psychotherapist had sex with me!

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Registered: 10-25-2008
My psychotherapist had sex with me!
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Thu, 06-18-2009 - 6:20pm

Well I don't know where to start. I started sleeping with my therapist 3 years ago. It was exciting and fun - sex was great!! Had issues with him never calling or testing me. I did all the work. In Jan he said he was not able to meet with me at his ofc b/c of a school function for his 15 yr old son. I have to go by there and sure enough he was there and so I waited- a girl came out and they kissed goodbye. I confronted him and he denied it- blah blah blah. Well fast forward to 1 week ago. I went by his ofc and there was a mini van there. I went and knocked on the door. He finally came out and his pants leg was caught in his sock and he had a semi erection. He told me his wife was in there and that she was driving a different car, etc. He told me to go home and he would call me later. So - I hid and waited to see this woman. His wife is black. This lady was white! I called him and he said that he had nit left the ofc yet. I told him that I saw the lady come out and it was not his wife - he said that the lady was a Parole officer that rents space from him. I asked him where his wife went - he said there was another car there. There were only two cars in the lot - I asked him if she evaporated through vents?? I told him just to be honest with me for once and he cont to tell me I was the only one.

Ok - 1st I know he is lying. 2nd, I am afriad these two women could be patients like I was. I have gone to talk to a therapist and talking about what happened. She thinks I need to turn him in. I am thinking about it. I am crushed! I trusted him so much - b/c I was so sad and hurt when I started seeing him as a patient. He took advantage of that - kissing and hugging after each session. How stupid can I be!!!

Then- I looked him up and found that another woman turned him in for similar sexual advances in 2005. He got probation. I am hurt, embarassed for hiding and waiting for the woman and mad. Thank u for reading.

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Registered: 02-03-2009
Thu, 06-18-2009 - 10:38pm

Hey girl, boy I feel so

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Registered: 10-25-2008
Fri, 06-19-2009 - 3:09am
Hello bigjugs- I understand where u may be thinking I am coming from. U r right in that if I were the only one it would be ok with me; however, b/c he may be finding his lovers via his patient list, it now affects the public. I am upset, but have enough insight to know he is a loser. Some do not hold that insight and can suffer significant consequences to sleeping with a person whom they felt safe with. To educate yourself on the topic, look up therapists who sleep with their patients. He does have a license and big money, but my license and gross income us much higher so it's not about getting even - just worried about other women - yes - I could be called a hypocrit and I'm ok with that at this point - it's bigger than that now. Sleeping with patients is unethical.
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Registered: 07-09-2008
Fri, 06-19-2009 - 3:54am

First - honey I am so sorry that you're going through this experience. I know where you're coming from because my xAP is a compulsive liar and cheat. So it makes the situation more difficult if he's your therapist! I mean... he's supposed to be someone you trust (not a liar) and that is there to help you (not take advantage of you).

You definitely MUST report him to the proper authorities! This man is taking advantage of women who are vulnerable and in need of his help, and who are not in the right state of mind to help themselves.

I feel sorry for his poor wife. She probably thinks he's going to work - and instead he's molesting his patients! urgh...

I'm really sorry you had to go through this... again, I know how it feels to be caught up in lies. Best thing is to leave the situation and report him.

I hope you do for the sake of other women so they dont' have to go thru what you did.

 

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Registered: 11-12-2008
Fri, 06-19-2009 - 1:25pm
"My psychotherapist had sex with me!" this sounds absurd to me.You had it with him as well.You are an adult and i am sure it was consensual.It would be different if you said your AP had another AP besides you ( leaving the W).
Stop all contact with him.
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Registered: 08-02-2000
Sun, 06-21-2009 - 2:29am
I'll be real blunt here. Your "therapist" is a sicko that needs help himself. He is crossing all sorts of lines and breaking the law, not to mention ethics. He preys on people like you. If you like being manipulated and used, then by all means, go ahead and continue being involved with this loser. But if you have ANY self esteem at all, you will stop this "relationship" (yea, right) right now and file charges against this predator. There's nothing romantic, erotic or interesting about this situation. He is taking advantage of your emotional state to further his cause which, obviously, is getting his rocks off. You need to run like your hair's on fire from this sick, sick situation. There's nothing romatic about it. There's nothing titillating about it. It's sick, it's wrong and you need to get the help that you need. And file charges against this crazy bast#rd. If you dont', then there's something seriously wrong with you. Honestly.