My story

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-25-2009
My story
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Sat, 08-01-2009 - 3:02pm

I am in a very bad place.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-02-2004
In reply to: heights2009
Sun, 08-02-2009 - 12:02pm

No doubt you've lost all credibility with your XAP, and rightfully so.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-25-2009
In reply to: heights2009
Sun, 08-02-2009 - 3:29pm
I do, I just wonder if she will ever forgive me and if the foundation of our relationship could ever be the basis of something.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-23-2007
In reply to: heights2009
Sun, 08-02-2009 - 6:06pm

I'm sorry if this is harsh but you have finally got to grow a backbone. You M your current W because you had dated her so long and then you cheated on her. You essentially also lied to the woman you say you have undying love for because you were afraid to leave the woman you M. People D all the time. Stop making excuses and make a move either way. Make a decision and stick to it.


Personally, if I were your XAP I wouldn't trust what you say with a grain of salt because you seem to fickle and undecisive for a man your age. Do your W (the mother of your child) a favor and set her free to find someone who will love and cherish only her. She too can find a man who will love her as completely as you love your AP. I feel really sorry for your W; you are holding her hostage to in a M where she is not being loved. Like you said she is a wonderful person and some man will be happy to have her. It sounds like you and your AP deserve to be together (i.e. you admitted that she treated her XH terribly and you are doing the same thing to your W). Sounds to me like you are two of a kind. STOP! Be a man.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-25-2009
In reply to: heights2009
Sun, 08-02-2009 - 6:36pm
you are right on all counts and it is disgusting to see the person I have become and the poor choices I have made.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-23-2007
In reply to: heights2009
Mon, 08-03-2009 - 10:29am
I wasn't knocking you for having an A. I had an A myself while M to my XH. I had an exit A because I too wanted happiness. I left my XH because no matter how "bad" I thought he was it would have been