my story, the short version

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Registered: 12-23-2003
my story, the short version
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Tue, 12-23-2003 - 3:59pm
just my story....its been a while since i took some time to talk about things, it usually does help and feedback here is always hopeful and positive.

i have been seeing my MM for 3 years now. still long distance.

he was married living on the opposite coast as I with his W and kids. last year he took a job on the same coast. it puts him about 5 hours away from me. the big deal with that move was that he did not move his W and kids with him. it seemed for a while that he was all mine and there woudl be no other obstacles. however. although he has been living without her for over a year, he has still failed to get a divorce. i threatened a month ago to end it. i really dont want to. he does so much for me. i love him so much and after 3 years its just not so easy. i have never known anyone like him. he said he willg et an appointment with a lawyer and file but im not sure if i believe that he will or if he is just sayign he will to appease me. i guess i should be thankful that he is at least away from his wife and moved to be closer to me. but i still have no clear vision of my future with him and its because of his marriage. i cant seem to understand why a man woudl stay married to a woman he doesnt love and has even moved away from her. im still hanging in there...like many of you i am waiting, hoping, that someday he and i will be able to have some kind of life together that is jsut us.

positive things can happen with patience girls, it has taken some time but each little baby step brings my MM and i closer to our future. maybe all these relationships dont end with heartbreak.

wishes to all of you, that all your dreams come true

from,

just me
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Registered: 09-16-2003
Tue, 12-23-2003 - 8:10pm
Aww, another happy story on the board. I am such a sucker for sappy and happy-ending stories. Hope you get all you wished for in the next year!!
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Registered: 10-23-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 8:33am
I dont think I could sit around a wait for anyone like you are? How do you do that? Don't you want/need to come home to someone at night? To be moving forward with someone who you always want to have in your future? Im not a candidate for the waiting game. I dont even entertain the idea of a future with my OM and even if I were single I wouldnt wait on anyone...that's just my honest opinion, I just dont know how you do it but I know alot of people who are in your shoes...

Best of luck to you *SUPER BIG HUG*

cl-liberalgirl

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