As Dr. Phil said.....kids would rather be from a broken home than live in one. I'm not one for necessarily telling someone to end a marriage, but from the sounds of it, yours just may be one I would. It sounds like you've tried to communicate with him and turn things around, but this guy's head is in the sand. If it were me, I would leave. You don't have the worries other women do about not being ok financially, etc. He may say it's all his, but a judge just may see it differently.
I too think that you need to leave your marriage. You are not doing your kids any favors by remaining in this relationship. You can both still be good parents separately. Perhaps even better parents than you were together.
Do you live in a no-fault divorce state? I just went through a divorce also. Most states are no-fault but some are not. If you do not live in a no-fault divorce state, and your H is able to find out about/prove that you are having an A, this could enter into the equation (meaning the courts would lean in his favor in terms of settlement, perhaps custody issues, etc).
Hope it helps you with your decision. Good luck.
i am new here, but reading your story i had to write.
I too think that you need to leave your marriage. You are not doing your kids any favors by remaining in this relationship. You can both still be good parents separately. Perhaps even better parents than you were together.
Do you live in a no-fault divorce state? I just went through a divorce also. Most states are no-fault but some are not. If you do not live in a no-fault divorce state, and your H is able to find out about/prove that you are having an A, this could enter into the equation (meaning the courts would lean in his favor in terms of settlement, perhaps custody issues, etc).
Don't let money and material things cloud your judgment.
Good Luck!
I do feel like I am on a path to finding my "SELF" and everything in me wants to get there.
Having gone through this also after 13 years of marriage I can say that if you set the course and follow through that in the end it can be worth it.