My update

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Registered: 09-12-2005
My update
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Thu, 07-18-2013 - 6:31pm

This is for those who remember me and were curious about the outcome of my love affair. 

Well, I went back with my AP after breaking up with him in March. Things calmed down for me. I stopped feeling anxious (or at least, it was reduced) and decided to trust the destiny. He was the one who became anxious seeing me enjoying my life and threw jealosy fits. But we always managed to fix our problems.

And suddenly, this week, he texts me that time came to start taking steps to be with me in the open and build a future with me. Later that day, he told me that he talked to the wife and broke up with her. As to what I understood, it was hard for him and she didn't take it well, but I didn't ask for details. She's leaving to her country on vacation for several weeks in a few days. 

He seems very in love with me and texts me non-stop (we can't see each other for now). He obviously doesn't want her to think that another woman was involved.

So here we are. Of course the same people who told me that he would never leave his wife, tell me not to get my hopes high. But what he told me was very unlike him, so I'm hopeful and at the same time, if things don't work out, I know that I'll be ok.

Our affair lasted 1 year and 4 months from the moment his wife came here. I was long and difficult, I wouldn't recommend it to anyone LOL. But I don't regret it.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
In reply to: sireanita
Fri, 07-19-2013 - 12:02pm

I think the only way for you not to get sucked into the same situation as the past is to tell him that when he is actually free from his DW and you can be together openly, that's when you'll be with him--I'm afraid that if you start up the affair again, then he'll just have more excuses as to why, even though he told his DW that it's over, he just can't leave her now.  Good luck.

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Registered: 09-12-2005
In reply to: sireanita
Fri, 07-19-2013 - 10:48pm

Thanks for your comments Music, but he's not a man who's looking for excuses. We are still together and this breakup came as a surprise to me, I didn't ask him anything, didn't push him, nothing. I was just living my life loving him. He didn't have to do it...