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| Sat, 04-17-2010 - 10:50am |
I've long been attracted to a guy who occasional works on our house.
He has always been single - but in a long relationship w/the same girl. He just doesn't want to officially tie any knots.
I have been married many years.
He knows I've been attracted to him, tho he told me long ago that he'd not get involved w/a married woman....not really telling me directly, but I think he mighta been sending me a roundabout message, so I cut back my signals after that.
I think he prob. finds me attractive - tho I have no idea to what degree - I may be selling myself short, or maybe he doesn't find me attractive - but I really think I'm selling myself short. He is friendly, but careful not to step over the line, & does have morals & manners.
He continues to see that longterm girl - but has also said he would consider going out w/others - not married.
Here's the catch. My dh is his accountant & does honest good work for him.
Is this why he doesn't want to go further? or b/c I'm married? both?
Our marriage is not that happy & never has been - I often wonder if/when we do divorce, if we would date.
Should I hang it up, or what??? thanks.

Welcome to MAS, picketyfence!
Unless you want to throw yourself at him, I'd say give up. It sounds like he just doesn't want to "go there" with a married woman - many people DO have that as a "deal breaker". I would never want to "entice" someone away from their personal deal breakers, it only causes them misery that they will then blame on YOU. Not worth it, IMO.
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