Now I wouldn't be me if I didn't keep it real, so.....
I was with you all the way to the end, until you started calling AP's W manipulating, and acting like a spoiled child. Now remember I am seeing a MM also, but you have to realize that you have devastated his whole family. You think it's hard for him to hear her call you a whore? Imagine what she is telling those children about their own father. I shudder to think. Her whole world, and everything that she thought she knew has been turned upside down. Her heart is broken, and her future uncertain, and IN HER MIND it's all your fault. Now I am the LAST to judge, and I don't usually say things that would tend to elicit guilt, because that's not what this board is about but, I am sorry you are out of order. You and AP would benefit from NC for a little while, and let him try to heal her, to the point that is appropriate, and try to heal, and reassure those kids. God why do they always pay for our mistakes? I am not just talking about you, my children were devastated when I split w EXH. I stayed as long as I could, but I couldn't take it anymore, so my children paid dearly for my inability to cope. I suggest that they attend family counseling even though they aren't going to be together anymore. A counselor can teach her how to survive these terrible times, and how to try to put her children before her own hurt, which is damn hard. It will also show her that despite the fact that he no longer wants to be w/ her he is still sorry for the way he went about it.
I am sorry if you or anyone else for that matter feels that I have been to harsh on you, but I gotta be me, and besides sometimes I think that we get so wrapped up in ourselves that we tend to forget about just how much our behavior affects other people and we need a wake up call.
I wish you, and AP all the luck in the world, just make sure that you don't let him keep her, and her hurtful actions from him going over there to see his kids, because they will turn this around and mistakenly blame themselves for all the chaos. They need their dad more than ever right now. Even more than you need him.
Now I wouldn't be me if I didn't keep it real, so.....
I was with you all the way to the end, until you started calling AP's W manipulating, and acting like a spoiled child. Now remember I am seeing a MM also, but you have to realize that you have devastated his whole family. You think it's hard for him to hear her call you a whore? Imagine what she is telling those children about their own father. I shudder to think. Her whole world, and everything that she thought she knew has been turned upside down. Her heart is broken, and her future uncertain, and IN HER MIND it's all your fault. Now I am the LAST to judge, and I don't usually say things that would tend to elicit guilt, because that's not what this board is about but, I am sorry you are out of order. You and AP would benefit from NC for a little while, and let him try to heal her, to the point that is appropriate, and try to heal, and reassure those kids. God why do they always pay for our mistakes? I am not just talking about you, my children were devastated when I split w EXH. I stayed as long as I could, but I couldn't take it anymore, so my children paid dearly for my inability to cope. I suggest that they attend family counseling even though they aren't going to be together anymore. A counselor can teach her how to survive these terrible times, and how to try to put her children before her own hurt, which is damn hard. It will also show her that despite the fact that he no longer wants to be w/ her he is still sorry for the way he went about it.
I am sorry if you or anyone else for that matter feels that I have been to harsh on you, but I gotta be me, and besides sometimes I think that we get so wrapped up in ourselves that we tend to forget about just how much our behavior affects other people and we need a wake up call.
I wish you, and AP all the luck in the world, just make sure that you don't let him keep her, and her hurtful actions from him going over there to see his kids, because they will turn this around and mistakenly blame themselves for all the chaos. They need their dad more than ever right now. Even more than you need him.
Wanna,