NC for a few days?

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Registered: 08-13-2002
NC for a few days?
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Wed, 11-05-2003 - 10:04am
Me and MM work in different cities for the same company. We talk Monday to Friday and email. we see each othe maybe twice a month, but i feel i'm the one always making the effort to see him, if i don't ask he doesn't. I'm really tired of him being in control on what happens to this relationship. He knows that i love him, and i think he takes me for granted, because he has feelings for me but not as strong as i would like. I don't feel important in his life, he does call but i'm starting to feel like it's like he doesn't want to be rude or mean to me. I wish he would take my feeling a bit more serious. I decided not to answer his calls anymore, and take a break. I'm really confused about my life and my other relationship with my H. H knows i don't love him no more. Should i keep ignoring MM for a few days until he gets concerned of what's going on? And then have a serious talk to him about this relationship? He's already called and i didn't pick up...
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Registered: 04-24-2003
Wed, 11-05-2003 - 10:17am
i'm going to tell you what the kind people on this board have told me. Yes, maybe backing off will bring him closer, but ultimately you will have to decided what to do in the relationship, and not let him steer the entire time. Your relationship with your H is a different story and should be handled differently, but with OM, decide if you want to be with him. If you feel he's calling you out of 'pity' or something else, then either call him on it, or keep playing games.. good luck
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Registered: 10-06-2003
Wed, 11-05-2003 - 12:26pm
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Edited 9/20/2004 1:58 pm ET ET by seansluv
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Registered: 08-13-2002
Wed, 11-05-2003 - 4:24pm
He called again earlier, and left a message, saying he would call back later, so far nothing yet. I'm leaving the office in 10 minutes, and by now i'm sure he's wondering, expecting me to call him, but i didn't. I will not call him on my way home, as i usually do. This is hard and as time goes by i know the temptation to pick up the phone will get stronger. I just need to be strong and do this, and with you guys supporting it helps, getting through it. Tomorrow will be harder i know....
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Registered: 10-23-2003
Thu, 11-06-2003 - 9:59am
Will you really be satisfied by forcing the response you want out of him? Dont play games, tell him you need to feel more appreciated and him to step up to the plate more than he does and initiate some of your meetings and such...he's not a mind reader...

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